When I was younger, dating was a lot more fun for me. Meeting new people and having new experiences. It seemed more recreational and easygoing. Now, I'm over it. lol The process is less enjoyable and more frustrating. Possibly due to having to balance with all my other responsibilities.

So I wondered how okps feel about dating at this point in their life. Do you like dating? Did you ever like it, and are now tired of it? Do you want to get married or settle down with someone or would you be happy being single forever? Is being in a relationship a priority to you? Do you feel pressured (by anyone including yourself) to settle down or to get married? Do you think your career gets in the way of dating?

Feel free to discuss (or vent) about anything regarding dating.

(im not going the online route)
but i keep wondering what the options are for meeting people that one might have something in common with
and that are interested in a potential relationship.

so.. the process is more frustrating
the only reason i want to settle is so i can stop having to do this

>(im not going the online route)
>but i keep wondering what the options are for meeting people
>that one might have something in common with
>and that are interested in a potential relationship.
>so.. the process is more frustrating

it's really difficult to meet people if you work a lot, which i do. it was much easier to meet people when i was younger. i've tried online, and it's disappointing. maybe i'm picky or something, but the pickings online are so slim.

>the only reason i want to settle is so i can stop having to do
>this

i sooooooo agree with this. that's where i'm at. outside of companionship, having someone to depend on, love, etc, i want to be with someone so i can stop looking. when my married friends talk about the difficulties of marriage and think being single is less stressful, i always tell them "you don't want to come back to this side. trust me."

Do you like dating?
i like it but I don't really date often. I know now everything is the internet but I don't feel comfortable with it yet.

Did you ever like it, and are
>now tired of it?
I'm tired of failed relationships but failure is part of life

Do you want to get married or settle down
>with someone or would you be happy being single forever?
I want to get married but I need to be cool with the idea of being single. Marriage isn't a guarantee and it just may not be in the cards for me.

Is
>being in a relationship a priority to you?
It's not the top priority but cultivating relationships in general is something i'm focusing on.

Do you feel
>pressured (by anyone including yourself) to settle down or to
>get married?
My entire family. I now have an aunt who is so consumed by it she calls me to hound me about men I'm dating. She just started this a month or so ago and proclaimed that she can't take it anymore, that there's no reason for me to be single, and I need to get married THIS YEAR. lol. I was seeing a guy and she gave me "advice" and keeps calling to follow up. I avoid her calls but there's a respect thing so I'll have to call her back :(. I'm not seeing that guy anymore so I'm expecting a shit show. I'm also just mad b/c these people don't care about me otherwise so I hate having to entertain this garbage.

Do you think your career gets in the way of
>dating?
no but my family does. my day job is fine but I DJ some nights. the frequency varies but right now I do one gig a week on a weeknight. i have a least 1 weekend night free every week (sometimes the entire weekend. thankfully people party during the week in NYC and chill unless it's the summer). i like DJing and i'm usually the one wanting more time to hang/chill when i'm dating so i always make an effort to fit people in if i really like them. i've never had anyone complain but i can't say i've dated a lot since my last serious relationship :(

it's really easy to fall back on those. so i've been putting in more effort in the last couple of years to maintain a connection with people. I think it's important whether you're in a relationship or not.

>Do you like dating?

No.

>Did you ever like it, and are now tired of it?

No. Never got "tired' of it because I learned to set the rules from the jump. She wants a $100 first date? lol, then she doesn't want to date me.

>Do you want to get married or settle down with someone or would you be happy being single forever?

Not married (because of the current marriage laws). I like LTRs tho.

>Is being in a relationship a priority to you?

No.

>Do you feel pressured (by anyone including yourself) to settle down or to get married?

No.

>Do you think your career gets in the way of dating?

Yes. I'm a computer programmer. Requires learning, practicing and working during my free time occasionally. Plus, it's not a "sexy" job, other than getting a check.

I've become far more self-sufficient. My goals in life are independent of any romantic relationship (raising my son, buying a house, career advancement, community building). I can see relationships more objectively now, and I know what I want and don't want. I know what I bring to the table, and my confidence in myself is at an all-time high. The pressure to date is gone. I have hobbies to keep me busy when alone. Even though meeting women is harder, my potential dating pool has greatly expanded since I can now date women much younger than I (unlike when I was a teen/early 20s). It's very easy to walk away from negative situations, and it's easy to appreciate positive situations for what they are. I'm much more realistic about women nowadays.

I know that *everything* is quite vague, but I really do mean everything (besides actually meeting women). What's "much easier" is everything in regards to my relationship with women, but it's all based on me growing as a person and valuing myself as I should.

.

knowing what you want and can bring to a relationship is a hard thing to figure out. it takes time and a lot of trial and error.

there was a time in my 20's where all I had to do was step outside and it seemed women were falling out of the sky, it was that easy

I was thinking about it just the other day, my 20's were the late 90's/early aughts and it was before the internet took over our lives. Before fb, ig, twitter, etc. I mean I was on AOL and Myspace but it wasn't everything. I even got some ass off those 2 but I was out in the streets, the clubs, the beach, house parties, traveling, aka places where you meet potentials and make something happen.

Now we got netflix, hulu, on demand, tinder, pof, etc etc...we all on smartphones and just getting older as we go along. Too old for the club, to be running the streets, all your party buddies and crew got married, kids, demanding jobs.

I went to a happy hour with some co-workers and the vast majority of the crowd was mid 20's. Might've been the particular spot we went to but the whole time I was on some "I'm too old for this shit" And that's how I feel about trying to date nowadays. in 1998 it was all about the hunt, the prowl, and the game.

It's like Slim Charles said: game's the same, just got more fierce

and let go of expectations.

>When I was younger, dating was a lot more fun for me.

I never really "dated" in my youth (teens through most of my 20's) had the occasional girlfriend, but was way more about getting through school and getting higher paying jobs. I actually had a fear/concern of getting a chic pregnant and winding up making things more difficult for myslef so I kept it at a distance.


>The process is less enjoyable and more frustrating. Possibly due to having to balance with all my other responsibilities.

I think it's less enjoyable when you're trying to focus on it. Staying focused on your goals and allowing the meeting of someone to happen (however it does) when it happens makes it more rewarding than frustrating IMO.


>Do you like dating? Did you ever like it, and are
>now tired of it?

Don't hate it. Like it more now as I feel I have the hang of it.

>Do you want to get married or settle down with someone

I'd like to settle down, but I can accept that that may not happen. Shit my number could be called tomorrow for all I know.


>being in a relationship a priority to you?

Being happy with myself and how I live my life are a priority

>pressured (by anyone including yourself) to settle down or to
>get married?

By myself at times, but not really pressure more like awareness

Do you think your career gets in the way of
>dating?

Nah I think it helps it

Do you like dating?
- not at all

Did you ever like it, and are now tired of it?
Never did but I did not start dating till 29. I had a relationship since I was young.

Do you want to get married or settle down with someone or would you be happy being single forever?
- Want to get married

Is being in a relationship a priority to you?
- I am 31 and getting that baby fever yea, lightweight priority.


Do you feel pressured (by anyone including yourself) to settle down or to get married?
- All the homies who are married and my grandma

Do you think your career gets in the way of dating?
- Sometimes. Come home too tired to entertain someone in dating. Have a hard time making time

I tapped out early but man, listening to people who date online is a trip.

I was talking to a woman and she asked me why dudes don't like to talk on the phone.

I thought that was odd but I guess since everyone text now it's a lost art form to speak on the phone.

Then you add in swiping and always having the option of seeing a potential mate online while on a date and it has to be hard as Shit.

no snark... but if I ever found myself single again I would prolly go old school and take my chances in public.

I think the instant gratification is killing the personal interaction.

>I think the instant gratification is killing the personal
>interaction.

i havent even gone that route and i know that's the attraction. i'd rather suffer a little while getting to know someone than feel "matched" up with someone whose intentions i know nothing about. i don't know any dude's intention but i think the matching sets expectations higher - like we CHOSE each other. but for different reasons though. lol

I think I'd be hoe if I was single now though lol. at least for a while til I got tired of that.

its so easy gain peoples trust and meet with a few taps on a keyboard.

I completely understand the reluctance to jump on the internet dating train. I bet that shit's overwhelming and frustrating for those that don't want to just smash everybody.

if private inboxes werent designed for starting conversations and exchanging phone numbers, I dont get their purpose

It's almost strange that I've had dates with women I feel wouldn't have even given me their number ten years ago. I guess that Mike Jones shit is for real.

But it feels like some women are nearly desperate, or either they're into me TOOOOO MUCH without even knowing me yet. If I pass their "on paper" test, feels like they end up being the ones trying to chase me, and that immediately turns me off.

you're in a unique position... it's almost like you are behind the curtain, a fucking puppet master.

it's different when you see fine women at your job.

>it's different when you see fine women at your job.

>So I wondered how okps feel about dating at this point in
>their life. Do you like dating?

no. i hate it.

Did you ever like it, and are
>now tired of it?

i liked it in my early 20s.

Do you want to get married or settle down
>with someone or would you be happy being single forever?

yes and i will eventually. its a matter of time. i would be happy being single forever because i'm determined to be happy no matter what. if my arm got chopped off tomorrow, i would still be happy. i still want my arm tho and i still want to get married. I do believe that marriage (and motherhood) would be instrumental to me being my happiest and best self.

Is
>being in a relationship a priority to you?

not right now but i guess it is indirectly. healing from the past and improving myself are my direct priorities.

Do you feel
>pressured (by anyone including yourself) to settle down or to
>get married?

yes, from myself. and also, people's reactions to me. people are now straight up asking me "what happened?" "what's wrong with you?" its extremely frustrating. but i stopped pressuring myself about having kids.

Do you think your career gets in the way of
>dating?

yes in the sense that i'm pursuing a difficult path without any financial help so i don't really have the money to take care of myself the way i'd like to. i can't afford to wear the best clothes or get my hair and nails done and all that stuff.

>Feel free to discuss (or vent) about anything regarding
>dating.

will do later.

that day.

too much?

it was a wack date. i was actually kinda relieved to see you. thats sad.

i desperately wanted to stick around and harass you two, but i aint want your date to think i was being disrespectful or like i aint know how to act in public.

he seemed like the type that would later act-funny about your line-stepping male friend.

i aint wanna give him no reasons to be a bamma.

You just gonna walk up on their date, huh? You could have just hit her later via text or twitter, etc. on some "I saw you!"

Just some lame shit to do, yo. He wasn't spending his bread to share time with you.

in that, you'd cop an attitude cause of another nigga that's known her longer than you gets excited to see her in public.

it was a pleasant surprise for both of us.

you'd have been upset if a friend of your date's popped up and made kissey faces at the window in front of your snooze-fest that you're coming out of pocket for?

>... tough call. you might be the type of nigga I'm typing about-
>in that, you'd cop an attitude cause of another nigga that's
>known her longer than you gets excited to see her in public.
>
>it was a pleasant surprise for both of us.
>
>you'd have been upset if a friend of your date's popped up and
>made kissey faces at the window in front of your snooze-fest
>that you're coming out of pocket for?


I guess you need your revenge now, huh? lol. You can't even be honest with yourself, yo.

And do better than the above response. Don't project YOUR feelings onto me.

where should i start?

first - you gotta call that creep a creep.

second - my lady alerted me to the transgression - she uncomfortable, im uncomfortable. you get that?

third, how the hell are you wild-typing about two events, of which you were at neither, and i was at BOTH?

in other words, stop trying to play me right now. it aint gonna work.

maybe try again later?

...though i do enjoy a good back and forth.

you got more?

lol

> Do you like dating?

Yes. Generally speaking. I live for good conversation and I like
to people watch. Dating is one of a few activities that I feel
keeps me on my toes and actually hones my social skills.

> Did you ever like it, and are now tired of it?

The older I get the more hermitic I've become. I'm really not trying to go
out socially unless there's potential for a lot more than one interesting night.
That being said, I never really regret going on a date either.

>Do you want to get married or settle down with someone
> or would you be happy being single forever?

This sounds awfully co-dependent and I hate that but I've recently
discovered how eager I am to build a life someone. I rarely ever
feel lonely and on the off-chance that I do, it's because I've
witnessed a couple that are really making their lives better by
being together.

I don't see marriage in my future, but I'm not against it either.

I've always been my own best company so I could definitely remain
single and be happy. In all frankness, I'd consider that path a
bit of waste though... I know I have a lot to offer someone.

>Is being in a relationship a priority to you?

Not really. It certainly could be more of one haha.

>Do you feel pressured (by anyone including yourself) to settle down or to get married?

Thankfully, no.

> Do you think your career gets in the way of dating?

No. Unless you count dates who have latent classism issues...

at least if you have good pics, etc. but it has made everyone overwhelmed with too many viable options to pick one, even if that's what they claim to want.

It's crazy because I've been on plenty of dates where we had a great time, and if we lived in a small town or some place where candidates were more scarce it would have led to something but since there are so many choices everything about the process makes it disposable.

yeah, fuckin' disposable people

You go on a good date and nothing happens.

Guys think meeting someone nice is evidence there must be a lot more nice women out there they should be meeting.

May as well just stay home or just hang out with friends instead.

i think the idea of "the grass is greener" has been prevalent before social media hit, especially in large cities. the abstract notion that there is someone better out there holds a lot of people back in establishing healthy relationship.

sounds like it's nice now days if you just want some quick ass
not so much if you want to build meaningful relationships

It's hard to underestimate the influence that social media has played in modern dating. I 'say' that I would never use online dating again if I was single....but I'm sure that after a few months I'd give in.

I think it's become more difficult in approaching women from a potential dating context in person. Happenchance meetings are down. lol One of the results of online dating is that it's allowed us to compartmentalize dating away from daily life. It's not an organic process....like the potential to meet someone while grocery shopping or something like that. I think it's mostly women to be honest....cause let's face it, guys are still perfectly willing to meet someone at the grocery store. Maybe it's just my own sour grapes....but I sensed that a significant amount of woman have become somewhat exclusive in that regard. Meeting people happens on dating sites....not in real life. I think partly because they've developed a personalized vetting process which has all sorts of functions.....safety, lie-detecting, etc.

And lying. Men lie lol. And yah, men have always lied in courtship but that shit is hitting an all-time high with dating profiles. I think it's pretty clear that internet dating intensifies ALL of the gender roles and dynamics. Women are valued for their beauty, men are valued for their social status. It kinda brings out the worst in all of us. Men train themselves to indulge further in seeing woman as sex objects. And they're less likely to commit to a long term relationship. All the other options are too close to the hip. Woman indulge in constructing the 'ideal partner' and fret over lists of personality traits. They're creating a husband of the mind, instead of meeting one.

Check this out... A singles' party. A punchbowl, some disco music, 50 men, 50 women. Guys all scoping out the women. The hottest chick will get hit on by 3 or 4 alpha males and maybe she decides to have a drink and dance with one of them. All the other people are doing their own thing. Some guys trying to score a division or two above their league. Some guys content with going for the women they perceive to be the same league. Some guys just looking for SOMEONE. Some women approaching guys too (obviously not in equal amounts).

Now compare that scenario to online dating dynamics with the same 100 people. Instead of 3 alpha males approaching the hottest chick.....there is a lineup of all 50 males waiting their turn to buy her a drink. She literally ignores 49 of them as they pass by and then the men line up for the next hottest chick. By the end of the night, each individual women will have been hit on at least 20 to 30 times instead of the organic 2 or 3. Men will have been rejected 30 to 50 times. Jennifer ignored what could have been the best relationship of her life because George bites his fingernails....something she would have overlooked in real life. Ed misses out on his 'the one' because her picture was unflattering.

I imagine the effect this is having sociologically is huge. On the whole, I'd contend that we're regressing into stricter, more intense gender roles because of it.

>When I was younger, dating was a lot more fun for me. Meeting
>new people and having new experiences. It seemed more
>recreational and easygoing. Now, I'm over it. lol The process
>is less enjoyable and more frustrating. Possibly due to having
>to balance with all my other responsibilities.
>
>So I wondered how okps feel about dating at this point in
>their life. Do you like dating

When it's happening..it's nice....it rarely does these days between work and music...I have no time really...I also live in a relatively small city...the dating pool is really small and feels almost incestuous...I need to migrate. 😟.




? Did you ever like it, and are
>now tired of it?

Wouldn't say I'm tired...but for reasons above...it gets annoying when for example you realise the therapist of a woman you're seeing is the mother of a friend of your daughter who you used to work with...


Do you want to get married or settle down
>with someone or would you be happy being single forever?
Up until recently I was hell bent in getting married...now....if it happens I'm good...if it doesn't..I'm good....once my child is good healthy and happy...once I'm doing shit I love and getting better...once i have a circle of friends I can trust and can spend time with...once I'm financially good...once I'm healthy.....I'll be aight


Is
>being in a relationship a priority to you?
Nope....being a better man is my priority.

Do you feel
>pressured (by anyone including yourself) to settle down or to
>get married?
Nope....I get the questions every now and then...especially with a child ( even the kid asks me sometimes lol)...I'm good tho...they see how little it bothers me and don't ask again.



Do you think your career gets in the way of
>dating?
I am pretty busy...but I think i would make time if I felt something or saw it going somewhere.



>
>Feel free to discuss (or vent) about anything regarding
>dating.
I've been thinking about starting to date women younger than I'm used to....talking late 20s early 30s....( I'm pushing 40)...i dunno.

is whats changed for me

sex is sex, its like the tide; it comes and goes, it ebbs and flows

but, a real connection, a real conversation, someone you can bust it up with and just talk about life?

thats that juice I keep searching for within each berry


so, I date a lot when I have time and for me its about just being in the presence of a person and really try to get to know them a bit

Im coming to appreciate the time with people, meaning if I have a good date or three with a lady and shes not feeling me then it doesnt fade me much because I have already had a great time with her...sometimes things are meant to be awesome on the short term...and sometimes you might find a life partner

that is where i'm at. casual sex/flings were enough to satisfy me for awhile, but it no longer works. like you're saying, developing an intimate connection with someone is something that i recently learned that i *need*. not want. with people thinking "the grass is greener" or folk acting as if they poor social skills, it's really hard to find that. it's worse than looking for a needle in a haystack.

>When I was younger, dating was a lot more fun for me. Meeting
>new people and having new experiences. It seemed more
>recreational and easygoing. Now, I'm over it. lol The process
>is less enjoyable and more frustrating. Possibly due to having
>to balance with all my other responsibilities.
>
>So I wondered how okps feel about dating at this point in
>their life. Do you like dating?
No

Did you ever like it, and are
>now tired of it?
No. I don't know. When I was young, I met guys slept with them and every single one wanted to date. And I just dated those guys for years.

Do you want to get married or settle down
>with someone or would you be happy being single forever? Is
>being in a relationship a priority to you? Do you feel
>pressured (by anyone including yourself) to settle down or to
>get married?
I don't care. You're a loser if youre not married by 23 here. So I'm like 10 yrs past that.

Do you think your career gets in the way of
>dating?
Definitely not.


>Feel free to discuss (or vent) about anything regarding
>dating.
>
>

and losing close to 100 LBS has me enjoying the dating scene.

I've come out of my shell a good deal and find myself getting way more positive attention from the ladies than I can ever recall.

I should probably get a girlfriend come winter (shit, a lot of people would think I should have BEEN married by now but oh well) but having a hell of a summer

>So I wondered how okps feel about dating at this point in
>their life. Do you like dating?
nope

Did you ever like it, and are
>now tired of it?

never did
i liked hanging out and meeting people but the moment it became a 'thing' expectation sprang up and i hated it

Do you want to get married or settle down
>with someone or would you be happy being single forever?

sure and yep


Is
>being in a relationship a priority to you?

nope

Do you feel
>pressured (by anyone including yourself) to settle down or to
>get married?

my mom only slightly and only very recently

Do you think your career gets in the way of
>dating?

nope

>Feel free to discuss (or vent) about anything regarding
>dating.


never been a fan
been avoiding it like the plague but i somehow find myself falling into them backwards
weirdest shit ever

~~~~
When you are born, you cry, and the world rejoices. Live so that when you die, you rejoice, and the world cries.
~~~~
You cannot hate people for their own good.

I'm only in here to keep myself from phuckin up! I've heard stories about dating at this age and I want to make sure that I stay married! :)

much less bullshit, everyone knows more about themselves.

sorry it sucks for y'all(?)


it's funny to see people pine for the long-lost days of personal interaction (which still exists), like that shit wasn't terrible too

yo, if you moved from your shit town to new york to live the big city dream, you deserve the shitty reality of NYC

www.engadgethd.com - the other stuff i'm looking at

>yo, if you moved from your shit town to new york to live the
>big city dream, you deserve the shitty reality of NYC
>


lmao.... this is the perfect response for someone with an avi like yours.

that you read so much into a picture of me that represents pretty much nothing about my life

www.engadgethd.com - the other stuff i'm looking at

>yo, if you moved from your shit town to new york to live the
>big city dream, you deserve the shitty reality of NYC


everyone is getting the shitty reality now through aps
its AWESOME
folks saying it above
more options mean folks act douchier

and yep NY just did it in person
now everyone has access to being an asshole online
yay
~~~~
When you are born, you cry, and the world rejoices. Live so that when you die, you rejoice, and the world cries.
~~~~
You cannot hate people for their own good.

but you're also more accessible to non-douchebags

the volume of the shit pipeline unloading into your inbox makes it hard to discern, but shit, OKP has that same problem


www.engadgethd.com - the other stuff i'm looking at

>but you're also more accessible to non-douchebags
>
>the volume of the shit pipeline unloading into your inbox
>makes it hard to discern, but shit, OKP has that same problem
>
>


Yep
One would think you would get well practiced at dodging

Frankly you only get tired


~~~~
When you are born, you cry, and the world rejoices. Live so that when you die, you rejoice, and the world cries.
~~~~
You cannot hate people for their own good.

when i hit the big 3-0

i'm fit, nice job, pretty good looking and they say i look 5 years younger.

i have plenty of hobbies and a marriage is the last thing i'd want in my life right now.

lately i've been dating women in the age range 20-40.

i love my single life, but i'll be damned if i don't get mad when i get surrounded by happy couples. shit hurts.

as soon as i'll find the right one i'll settle down for a LTR. but i'm in no hurry either. i have great relatives that doesn't put any pressure on me at all. that's the way it should be.

and if someone wants to be single forever then so be it. it's his fucking life and NOBODY has the right to tell him whats wrong or whats right.

I got clamped down instantly, it's good, but someone needs to stay winning out in those streets

www.engadgethd.com - the other stuff i'm looking at

on one hand being free is great, but on the other hand when you see a happy couple you remember how good it CAN be

maybe i just have less expectations or can weed out people more before i decide to do something with them. but i have enjoyed it more now and maybe because i'm pretty upfront with what i'm not looking for now.

Do you like dating?
Only when i meet someone interesting. and since i came out of a very long relationship dating has been fun because i make sure i have fun.

Did you ever like it, and are
>now tired of it?
I still like it but don't date all the time


Do you want to get married or settle down
>with someone or would you be happy being single forever?
Maybe but not now. that person has to really take all my walls down.

Is
>being in a relationship a priority to you? Do you feel
>pressured (by anyone including yourself) to settle down or to
>get married?
Not a priority. I'm an only child so yes my folks do sometimes bring it up.


Do you think your career gets in the way of
>dating?
actually naw. Working creative it's the opposite
>
>Feel free to discuss (or vent) about anything regarding
>dating.

I notice that being unavailable and being honest about it has not been a deterrent. if I knew this in my twenties...
>
>


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Do you like dating?
I feel like I was just getting the hang of it

Did you ever like it, and are
>now tired of it?

hated it. hated meeting new people, asking out, arranging date, etc.

I'm slightly less of an asshole in general these days, which helps

Do you want to get married or settle down
>with someone or would you be happy being single forever?
probably the former. I kinda wore out being single

Is
>being in a relationship a priority to you?
more than it was, but being happy in general and my family is still way higher

Do you feel
>pressured (by anyone including yourself) to settle down or to
>get married?

not really

Do you think your career gets in the way of
>dating?
to an extent, I work long/weird hours

>
>Feel free to discuss (or vent) about anything regarding
>dating.
>
>


www.engadgethd.com - the other stuff i'm looking at

Do you like dating?
Nope.

Did you ever like it, and are now tired of it?
I've always disliked dating.

Do you want to get married or settle down with someone or would you be happy being single forever?

I'm happier in good relationships. Last year was the first time I dated someone who was wrong for me for more than a month and it was draining. I'd rather be single than unhappy.

Is being in a relationship a priority to you?

For my timeline (married by 35) it maybe should be, but I'm way more into my community and career right now. Dating feels like a chore.

Do you feel pressured (by anyone including yourself) to settle down or to get married?
Naw.

Do you think your career gets in the way of dating?
Only because it's more enjoyable than dating.

Feel free to discuss (or vent) about anything regarding dating.

When I was in my 20s, someone told me that when it comes to marriage, women wait for the right person, men wait for the right time. My main complaint about dating is that I keep finding the "right time" dude, who talks about how ready he is to get married, usually because he messed it up with "the one" while in his 20s and his friends are married with kids.

The men I meet are way more pressed for a marriage-track relationship than I am and it takes the fun out of it. I'm still waiting on the "right one." Without that, the timing doesn't matter.

http://waitbutwhy.com/2014/02/pick-life-partner.html

http://www.vanityfair.com/culture/2015/08/tinder-hook-up-culture-end-of-dating

the tinder meltdown on twitter was funny:
http://www.theverge.com/2015/8/12/9136287/tinder-twitter-vanity-fair-meltdown

I have no problems meeting men.
Being 40 gives me access to men older than myself and younger.
So, options are limitless.
What I do find though is that men older than me seem to be a bit more crotchety. LOL

Do you like dating?
No

Did you ever like it, and are now tired of it?
Never really liked dating

Do you want to get married or settle down with someone or would you be happy being single forever?
I want to get married and have kids.

Is being in a relationship a priority to you?
Yes

Do you feel pressured (by anyone including yourself) to settle down or to get married?
Yeah, my parents. I'm their only hope for grandkids but I'm pushing 40.

Do you think your career gets in the way of dating?
Kinda because I have to work on the weekends.

Feel free to discuss (or vent) about anything regarding dating.
Hard to date again after losing the love of my life. But I guess I have to get back out there.

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