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12870511, Ever told a friend they don't look happy in a relationship? Posted by Buddy_Gilapagos, Mon Aug-03-15 03:23 PM
How that work on for you, that friendship and that terrible relationship?
I see my dude and I just see his soul being crushed. It reminds me of how Tony Soprano described his mother as a joyless woman who wore his father down "to a little nub".
Can I assume that there is no need to tell him because he already know?
********** "Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson
"One of the most important things in life is what Judge Learned Hand described as 'that ever-gnawing inner doubt as to whether you're
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12870517, She was a "friend" Posted by John Forte, Mon Aug-03-15 03:25 PM
Had to hit her with that "Is you happy?"
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12870521, Game or real concern? How did she respond? Posted by Buddy_Gilapagos, Mon Aug-03-15 03:30 PM
Y'all still friends? She still unhappy?
Is there ever a scenario where they think you for it?
********** "Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson
"One of the most important things in life is what Judge Learned Hand described as 'that ever-gnawing inner doubt as to whether you're
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12870522, yeah i told that to the girl i was with. Posted by Cenario, Mon Aug-03-15 03:32 PM
she claimed she was.
I broke up with her the next day and got with the chick in my spanish class that i was digging.
oh, to be 16 again.
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12870540, had that talk with a friend on a tubing ride this weekend Posted by tomjohn29, Mon Aug-03-15 03:44 PM
smoked and attacked her issues in her relationship she needed it
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12870550, I've never found it necessary to come out and say that directly Posted by Boogie Stimuli, Mon Aug-03-15 03:50 PM
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12870553, 2. Posted by SoWhat, Mon Aug-03-15 03:52 PM
1 just ended his relationship after 10 yrs.
the other is still going on - but these days my friend seems happier and says he's happier.
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12870562, did you asking about it at all help them make the decision in #1? Posted by Buddy_Gilapagos, Mon Aug-03-15 03:55 PM
********** "Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson
"One of the most important things in life is what Judge Learned Hand described as 'that ever-gnawing inner doubt as to whether you're
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12870566, i only watered the seed. Posted by SoWhat, Mon Aug-03-15 03:57 PM
several of us in his friend circle watered the seed.
i can't take all the credit - i was only one of many.
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12870567, i told him but it wasnt like he didnt know Posted by legsdiamond, Mon Aug-03-15 03:58 PM
I said "it doesn't sound like either of you are happy"
they broke up soon after. I doubt I had anything to do with it tho, I think he just heard himself say it out loud one too many times.
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12870593, I've been that friend :/. Posted by BabySoulRebel, Mon Aug-03-15 04:16 PM
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12870622, you would be correct...he knows. but for whatever reason he is Posted by mikediggz, Mon Aug-03-15 04:46 PM
unable to end the relationship at this time.
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12870626, I didnt believe it when it was brought up to me Posted by double negative, Mon Aug-03-15 04:55 PM
now I know but at that time i was like "LIES!" "but but but......"
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12882529, Update: So SHE wants a divorce Posted by Buddy_Gilapagos, Tue Aug-18-15 01:26 PM
So she told my other Ace's wife that she wants a divorce. She says she thinks he is cheating but we know it isn't true just looking for an excuse.
My Ace told me but asked me to not break the confidence of his wife who was told about old girl wanting the divorce in confidence.
Now I of course swore to secrecy when my Ace told me this secret but of course I feel compelled to tell my original Ace that his wife wants a divorce. Bro Code requires it right (though there appears to be a bro code conflict)!?!?
So my choices are:
1. Do nothing. He will find out the deal when she tells him thus I will be honoring my promise to keep a secret.
2. Tell My original Ace so that he can be prepared for what's coming. Of course I will be blowing up the relationship between my Ace's girl and the wannabe divorced chick but yeah, whatever.
If this is all too confusing I will redo and give folks alias.
********** "Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson
Movies I need y'all bastids to see so we can discuss:
Five Star Appropriate Behavior Margaret
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12882537, just have the "is you happy?" convo Posted by labcoat, Tue Aug-18-15 01:35 PM
dont mention what you know but just be his friend and guide him to look at what is going on in his relationship
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12882539, Yeah, the only tidbit I think he needs to know is that she is actively Posted by Buddy_Gilapagos, Tue Aug-18-15 01:37 PM
looking for an excuse to divorce him. I want to make sure he doesn't give it to her by doing something dumb. I want his guard up.
********** "Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson
Movies I need y'all bastids to see so we can discuss:
Five Star Appropriate Behavior Margaret
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12882639, mail him a chik-fil-a letter... Sheez guna dee force yuu burrruh! Posted by legsdiamond, Tue Aug-18-15 02:47 PM
eat mor phish
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12883072, might have to do this. LOL. Posted by Buddy_Gilapagos, Wed Aug-19-15 09:08 AM
********** "Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson
Movies I need y'all bastids to see so we can discuss:
Five Star Appropriate Behavior Margaret
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12882647, Every time I've heard this, it was the lady that said it who was cheating Posted by flipnile, Tue Aug-18-15 02:56 PM
>She says she thinks he is cheating but we know it isn't true
Seriously. Projection is real. At least put the bug in your homey's ear that he should make sure everything is on the up-and-up and to protect his neck.
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12882854, yup, and if she aint cheating she got someone on deck Posted by legsdiamond, Tue Aug-18-15 07:00 PM
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12882656, my best friend Posted by justin_scott, Tue Aug-18-15 03:02 PM
they'd been together 9 years, but i knew he didn't want her anymore. i just told him he needed to break it off sooner than later and he did within a month. now he's with a new woman that he really likes.
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