what's that whole thing about, huh?

*chews apple obnoxiously*

they are women who have given up on finding suitable companionship. they take that energy and focus on the rest of their lives...


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of interest.

it's like i'm sitting right here and there's a glass of water sitting right there. and it's available. nice & cold.

but all i do is sit there.

does it matter whether i like water or not? i don't think it does. my definition focuses on the lack of interest. the complete indifference...

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"Asexuality (or nonsexuality) is the lack of sexual attraction to anyone, or low or absent interest in sexual activity. It may be considered the lack of a sexual orientation, or one of the variations thereof, alongside heterosexuality, homosexuality, and bisexuality."

Hmm, I guess that fits then. So does that mean you can be born asexual, or that you can change to feeling this way later in life? Or is orientation a conscious choice? This is probably a whole different discussion.

were turned off over time...

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And carefully study their reactions ?

But yes yall are picking up on people volunteering folks for this designation
As opposed to people labeling themselves
That's a problem

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denotes maybe going against one's natural inclination, no?

.

They may not talk about them. There is a stigma to women who bring around a dif guy to every gathering or sleep around. I never mention anyone to friends or family unless it's serious. So I can go long stretches without mentioning anyone.

I've read about it in other people. It seems to be overwhelmingly beautiful women who claim it. Have no idea why that would be the case, though.

about sex to tell you that they don't care about sex


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hollering. She was trying to explain to me why she didn't want to ever mess around with me or hardly anyone else for that matter. She said she thought she might be a lesbian and tried to messing with girls but realized she didn't really like them either.

It's a moot point now because she moved back home last year, but at the time, I think she would have liked that. But she was mature enough to realize that dating someone sexual (long-term) is not going to be enjoyable to at least one of the people in the relationship.

>But she was mature enough to realize that dating someone sexual
>(long-term) is not going to be enjoyable to at least one of
>the people in the relationship.

Hopefully she joined a social networking site dedicated to asexuality or something.

there's nothing to "get."

It doesn't take a leap of imagination to think that if you have a spectrum of variance there are people who are at zero on the far side.

Good to have you back, by the way.

its a kind of numbness i would welcome.

He was the type to not invest in anything he couldn't master of fully comprehend to an extent. He's paranoid schizophrenic/delusional now.

And at the risk of the streets watchin', it has been quite the head-scratcher for the whole crew.

They, literally, have NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER in 15+ years mentioned a paramour or even a date of any kind. No one has ever known them to even express interest or a crush.

The first thought, of course, was that they were gay and wasn't out to us/them/whomever. But then we thought there are two people in our core crew who are gay so we think that if they were, they'd know that we don't give a shit and come out. But nothing.

So we've settled on asexual because we really can't think of anything else.

>And at the risk of the streets watchin', it has been quite
>the head-scratcher for the whole crew.
>
>They, literally, have NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER in 15+ years
>mentioned a paramour or even a date of any kind. No one has
>ever known them to even express interest or a crush.
>
>The first thought, of course, was that they were gay and
>wasn't out to us/them/whomever. But then we thought there are
>two people in our core crew who are gay so we think that if
>they were, they'd know that we don't give a shit and come out.
> But nothing.
>
>So we've settled on asexual because we really can't think of
>anything else.

There are a few people I've known for years and they have never mentioned the opposite sex...or even the same sex for that matter.

For example, I have a co-worker who I have worked closely with for maybe eight years now, and I have never heard her hint about being in a relationship. I've never even heard her refer to a relationship in the past.

Her lifestyle is even more confusing. She a mid-40ish, heavyset white woman, with a Betty Page haircut and tats. She's into the whole nerdy scene...sci-fi and cosplay. She lives with her sister and has a side gig writing romance novels for gay men.

I have no idea what bag she's in, although I half expect to see her turn up in an AdWhizzz photo shoot one day.

you should refer her to the homie...

always assumed it was a boutique label for snooty chix. is it a disorder of some kind?

I suspect a lot of it is top-of-the-food-chain women who are just super hypergamous and therefore aren't satisfied with hardly any of the men they meet.

Inspired by our guy posting this on twitter and went back to see where this conversation went:

https://x.com/DJRTistic/status/2090436253158375817

WOrth revisiting because remember the OKplayer who went on and on about how she is never having kids and never had any interest? Her instagram now does is nothing of pictures of her and her kid.


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"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"

she's not interested in having any type of relationship. and definitely not looking for physical attention. has never expressed interest in dating.

interesting assumptions. How come some y'all haven't ask your friend directly. They may not even realize what they are? And being asexual doesn't mean don't want companionship or don't love. as someone said there are spectrums.