>but people usually don't introduce an ex husband or old
>sexual partner as "just a friend"
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>if it was just in passing, no need to go into it but if he is
>hanging around the house and chilling with you at cookouts and
>is "friend" it makes sense to be the one to tell him or her
>instead of letting someone else drop that info on your lap.
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>it's a set up because everyone knew but Deron.
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I do not see this as being a set up because according to the original post, Jessica and Rico are friends and have been friends 6 years prior to Jessica getting with Deron. Which also means that Rico has been to many cookouts and get together soon with Jessica and her past boyfriends prior to Deron coming into the picture. Jessica and Rico being "friends" suggess that there is more going on between them which may be continuing while Jessica was or is in a relationship with Deron.

Now, the question is whether Jessica and Rico had an ongoing sexual relationship during the course of their friendship or if their platonic friendship developed AFTER they had a brief liaison?

If it is the former, then it is a non issue. They did what they did when they were both were young, decided that they are better off homies and moved on. If it is the latter, then it would or should cause great concern because of the possibility of them currently getting together while Jessica is in a relationship with Deron.

To me, anything Jessica did before she met Deron is her business. She wasn't in a relationship with Deron and may not have known he existed up until they met or they could have been just friends that developed into more in which is still her business.

I don't think Jessica is the big bad wolfette for something that went down 8 years ago or something that happened 6 years peior to her current relationship. Truth of the matter is that as uncommon as it may seem for such a friendship to exist, the realities is that it may be more common than you think and it is a relity for all parties involved.

So...

What is more important, how Jessica is treating Deron now which lead to an engagement or an ego bruise which may cause a potential breakup that may be even a bigger mistake than not disposing something that happened many moons ago?