because I couldn't and she more than likely wouldn't end her friendship w/him...and I don't think I could ever be totally comfortable w/him being around us after knowing this..

And secondly, if the situation were reversed, there's no f'ing way your soon-to-be-wife is going to be cool w/you having a "friendship" w/a chick you used to have a sexual liason with...I don't care how long ago or how casual you say it was

So what's fair for her should be fair for the both of us