its also about knowing whats important to you as a spouse.

some men know that they will cheat or be tempted to cheat if they're not sexually satisfied or sexually compatible with their partner.

if sex isn't important to you, then i can see why it wouldn't be as important see what the deal is beforehand.

in my virgin days, i did sense that the guys just wanted me to have more sexual experience but also more emotional experience dealing with sex.