and they truly want to meet someone and engage with them emotionally first and foremost. that's not something that just comes with marriage

lots of people need that before having sex, which is fine and healthy
so is someone who would rather just seek and engage in physical relationships. as long as they are aware and they seek people who are of a similar mind or understand and accept those terms, then that's healthy as well

drama and heartache aren't a result of seeking sex usually. if anything it's a result of seeking more