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12777740, How much intelligence do you require in a potential SO?
Posted by BabySoulRebel, Wed Dec-31-69 07:00 PM
there is this woman I'm interested in
I think she's so cute and she's very sweet
but the more interact with her, the more I see that she would never be mistaken for a neurosurgeon or a political news correspondent in any way, shape or form. Not I would either by any means but I'm known to be very diehard "you gotta be smart to get the drawz".

maybe I'm confusing intelligent with being intellectual?
Help me out GD.

Poll question: How much intelligence do you require in a potential SO?

Poll result (39 votes)
I like them as dumb as a doorknob, easier to keep the upper hand. (2 votes)Vote
I like them to be able to at least hold most of a conversation. (3 votes)Vote
I like them to be articulate and well-versed on a variety of topics. (27 votes)Vote
Go Mensa or go home, bitch. (7 votes)Vote

  

12777749, Smart enough to hold her own in any room
Posted by John Forte, Fri Apr-10-15 10:20 AM
12777753, A person can be charming, charismatic and not that smart.
Posted by Buddy_Gilapagos, Fri Apr-10-15 10:22 AM
In fact I would say I'd value a person being able to hold their own in any room over being smart.


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"One of the most important things in life is what Judge Learned Hand described as 'that ever-gnawing inner doubt as to whether you're
12777761, when you put it like that
Posted by BabySoulRebel, Fri Apr-10-15 10:24 AM
maybe I need to edit now
because there are several different types of intelligence
social
emotional
cognitive
kinetic

Thinking now I'm probably referring to solely the latter when other forms of intelligence as just as important.
Thanks!
12778451, ive never met this mythical person
Posted by cgonz00cc, Sat Apr-11-15 06:08 AM
12777750, I think everyone needs a constellation of people in their lives
Posted by Buddy_Gilapagos, Fri Apr-10-15 10:20 AM
And the SO doesn't necessarily have to be the brain surgeon. If they are sweet kind, homemaker and don't impede your intellectual needs AND they challenge me in other ways, that can work if you have other intellectual outlets.

If they dumb as bricks and hold you back, that's a problem.

Guess I am saying it's not a deal breaker under the right circumstances.



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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson


"One of the most important things in life is what Judge Learned Hand described as 'that ever-gnawing inner doubt as to whether you're
12777754, at least 600 on the math and 650 on the verbal on the SATs
Posted by T Reynolds, Fri Apr-10-15 10:22 AM
12777801, I'll settle for 580 math, but 650-725 verbal
Posted by -DJ R-Tistic-, Fri Apr-10-15 10:37 AM
Anything over 725 mean she can put me down with words I don't understand
12777806, True. but you definitely don't want higher than 600 in math
Posted by T Reynolds, Fri Apr-10-15 10:39 AM
cause you don't want her counting your money
12777839, Good point tho
Posted by -DJ R-Tistic-, Fri Apr-10-15 10:57 AM
12777860, CRINE.
Posted by BabySoulRebel, Fri Apr-10-15 11:03 AM
12778014, lawdt
Posted by lfresh, Fri Apr-10-15 12:49 PM
i'm damned either way

LMAO
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12777843, i need one subscore in the 700s. the other >600
Posted by cgonz00cc, Fri Apr-10-15 10:57 AM
12777948, Why would I wife her if I wouldn't employ her yadadadamean?
Posted by T Reynolds, Fri Apr-10-15 12:05 PM
12777765, she gotta be able to prove me wrong at least once a week.
Posted by Deadzombie, Fri Apr-10-15 10:26 AM
12777788, so anyone with a pulse?
Posted by legsdiamond, Fri Apr-10-15 10:32 AM
12777807, you tried.
Posted by Deadzombie, Fri Apr-10-15 10:40 AM
12777792, that's women's job on planet earth
Posted by T Reynolds, Fri Apr-10-15 10:34 AM
test man's resolve
12777815, true. but she gotta -prove- that shit.
Posted by Deadzombie, Fri Apr-10-15 10:45 AM
12777776, re: intelligent vs being intellectual
Posted by BigJazz, Fri Apr-10-15 10:28 AM
what are your thoughts on that?


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12777785, see #6
Posted by BabySoulRebel, Fri Apr-10-15 10:31 AM
i think i did indeed confuse the two
while they can work hand in hand, they aren't the same thing.
For example: I recognize that while I'm cognitively/intellectually quite intelligent and I've made great strides in developing my emotional intellgence, my kinetic intelligence is horrible because my hand-eye coordination is very weak.

12777867, i meant to say #5
Posted by BabySoulRebel, Fri Apr-10-15 11:07 AM
12777793, just don't say dumb shit that makes the room go "oh wow"
Posted by legsdiamond, Fri Apr-10-15 10:34 AM
girl from cali was fine as wine..

asked me if she could drive to VA in a few hours. smh

she was fine enough to forgive tho.

12777797, there are also brain surgeons and lawyers that are ditzy as shit
Posted by T Reynolds, Fri Apr-10-15 10:36 AM
who would ask the same question

12777864, Yes I've seen CEOs and chairpeople do the same kind of thing
Posted by BabySoulRebel, Fri Apr-10-15 11:05 AM
12777865, no doubt
Posted by legsdiamond, Fri Apr-10-15 11:05 AM
12777872, I dated this doctor who was ditzy as shit
Posted by Amritsar, Fri Apr-10-15 11:10 AM
Before that I naively thought all doctors were brilliant

Turns out some were just willing to study harder than other people
12777959, I kinda sorta dated a person studying to be a doctor in college
Posted by legsdiamond, Fri Apr-10-15 12:11 PM
she was ditzy as shit...

but talk about anything science related and she was top notch.





12778016, yep
Posted by lfresh, Fri Apr-10-15 12:51 PM
social intelligence
emotional intelligence

theres levels to this
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12778053, And this is the worst combo EVER
Posted by -DJ R-Tistic-, Fri Apr-10-15 01:29 PM
Especially when some of them are still arrogant because of their title/position, but then can't answer dumb shit, and always settle for the "so what if I don't know 3 + 8....I got dis degree/position!! What do YOU have?"

I've only met a few like this in my life, but man...wanted to give them the five fingers to the face treatment
12778324, and it never works the other way either!
Posted by blackrussian, Fri Apr-10-15 06:39 PM
you can't say 'oh, who cares i don't know *insert medically/scientifically specific shit here* but I can tell you all about abstract expressionism!'
12778461, Truth.
Posted by Triptych, Sat Apr-11-15 07:09 AM
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12777796, Somewhere between "we'll never end up on Maury" and
Posted by abcdmetrius, Fri Apr-10-15 10:35 AM
I'm not too busy saving the world from a deadly disease to hang out.
12777805, Not too fast, but not too slow, cause I don’t have it all my damn self
Posted by -DJ R-Tistic-, Fri Apr-10-15 10:39 AM
12777831, pretty much
Posted by ambient1, Fri Apr-10-15 10:55 AM
12777840, halfway between yellow and green
Posted by cgonz00cc, Fri Apr-10-15 10:57 AM
12777854, *browses post*
Posted by Mongo, Fri Apr-10-15 11:01 AM
12777859, I think for me it is more about having a love for learning
Posted by dapitts08, Fri Apr-10-15 11:02 AM
Like I LOVE learning new things and can't imagine myself with someone who doesn't have a similar love of learning.

12777866, this is a very good point
Posted by BabySoulRebel, Fri Apr-10-15 11:06 AM
I don't need you to be another Albert Einstein but I do need you to be open to new ideas.
12777861, this post is funny
Posted by Crash Bandacoot, Fri Apr-10-15 11:03 AM
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12777862, green. i need a woman who can check me on things sometimes n/m
Posted by Mash_Comp, Fri Apr-10-15 11:04 AM
12777898, I come from an education snob background, sort of;
Posted by lonesome_d, Fri Apr-10-15 11:31 AM
the kind that doesn't think of itself as judgmental but always judges based on the school attended or something similar. So it took me a while to figure out that the quality of someone's education is not necessarily reflective of his or her intelligence.

In the end the only big intellectual turnoff for me was mental laziness, lack of curiosity. A prime example I've mentioned on here before was a girl who asked me in before our date to see pictures from her trip to Borneo. I asked her which country she'd visited, and she said 'uhhh... Borneo.'

It was a good sign that she'd been there; travel, especially to relatively undervisited (by Americans) parts of the world, is usually a great sign of curiosity. And I could easily forgive most people not knowing that Borneo is not a country, since it's not exactly on most people's radar. But to have been there and not even grasped what country she was in... not good. The date went downhill from there.
12777910, I Know My Ass Is Dumb, But I'm No Dumbass (c) Sam Jax
Posted by RexLongfellow, Fri Apr-10-15 11:37 AM
She should be the same way
12777919, we need to be able to challenge each other
Posted by blackrussian, Fri Apr-10-15 11:42 AM
12777956, i need them to be smart. i want to challenge and be challenged
Posted by teefiveten, Fri Apr-10-15 12:11 PM
a potential (though more of a next lifetime type) suitor once called me "formidable"

one of the best compliments i've ever received. especially since it was coming from someone whose intelligence i ranked pretty high
12777996, sounds backhanded to me
Posted by legsdiamond, Fri Apr-10-15 12:35 PM
like you are an enemy he respects
12778011, considering how respect is more important to her
Posted by BabySoulRebel, Fri Apr-10-15 12:48 PM
than being desired, I think she would still take it if that was the case LOL
12778018, some Mr and Mrs Smith going on
Posted by lfresh, Fri Apr-10-15 12:53 PM
boobie traps in the bedroom








boobie
get it
GET IT!?
*sigh*
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When you are born, you cry, and the world rejoices. Live so that when you die, you rejoice, and the world cries.
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You cannot hate people for their own good.
12778358, i laughed out loud
Posted by SHAstayhighalways, Fri Apr-10-15 08:07 PM
we corny
lmao
12778036, ^^knows me very well
Posted by teefiveten, Fri Apr-10-15 01:09 PM
lol. honestly i took it more as i can definitely level up w/ him intellectually but also he'd have to try very hard to get something past me, which i would hope to be true. i have many blonde moments. lol
12778085, I wonder if she said thanks and he was like.. uhh, ur welcome?
Posted by legsdiamond, Fri Apr-10-15 01:54 PM
12778087, i said 'really?' and kinda thought about it and said 'ok!'
Posted by teefiveten, Fri Apr-10-15 01:59 PM
lol.

12777957, the only thing worse than a ding bat female
Posted by seasoned vet, Fri Apr-10-15 12:11 PM
are people that think that shit is cute
12777962, I need a brilliant man... and I have one.
Posted by Phenomenality, Fri Apr-10-15 12:13 PM

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12777963, if i turn on 'jeopardy' and she wanna watch 'family feud'...
Posted by ALmighty44, Fri Apr-10-15 12:13 PM
she gotta go LOL
12778000, my wife prefers FF but she is a beast at Jeopardy
Posted by legsdiamond, Fri Apr-10-15 12:37 PM
so I let her watch FF.

She hurt my feelings in double jeopardy the last time we watched
12777992, I was going to make a post about this.
Posted by atruhead, Fri Apr-10-15 12:32 PM
Porsha Stewart is ridiculously hot and ridiculously dumb. If I could afford her lifestyle I still wouldnt be interested
12778020, i don't like a know it all
Posted by lfresh, Fri Apr-10-15 12:55 PM
but i am a sapio sexual

i like someone willing to learn though as well
and willing to discover together

its fantastic if they are an expert in their field of knowledge

but you can be smart and also be boring and rigid

mental flexibility goes a longer way with me than a high IQ but no emotional/social skills

i gear towards interesting ala MIM more than strictly test taking smart
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When you are born, you cry, and the world rejoices. Live so that when you die, you rejoice, and the world cries.
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You cannot hate people for their own good.
12778465, agreed
Posted by Crash Bandacoot, Sat Apr-11-15 07:38 AM
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12778541, This. I need a lifetime learner
Posted by Sepia., Sat Apr-11-15 12:03 PM
I dated one guy who was so smart, he was used to intimidating people.

At the time, I was so sheltered and green, I was just happy to learn things from him.
But as we progressed, I realized he wasn't really open to learning from me.
Like it made him insecure to not know everything for once.

I need a man who can learn from me and with me as well as teach me things.
12778097, idiot savant: dumb enough to date me, really smart at other things
Posted by J_Stew, Fri Apr-10-15 02:06 PM
12778111, L-O-L
Posted by BabySoulRebel, Fri Apr-10-15 02:33 PM
12778128, "God, why did you make woman so beautiful?"
Posted by -DJ R-Tistic-, Fri Apr-10-15 02:46 PM
Man says to God: "God, why did you make woman so beautiful?"
God says: "So you would love her."
"But God," the man says, "why did you make her so dumb?"
God says: "So she would love you."
12778147, ^^^^^^^ stealing this!!!!!!!!!!
Posted by BabySoulRebel, Fri Apr-10-15 03:04 PM
I literally just LOL'd at my desk
12778137, ^^winner
Posted by spenzalii, Fri Apr-10-15 02:55 PM
12778298, the question should change to, you tryna cuff or fuck?
Posted by bonitaapplebaum71481, Fri Apr-10-15 06:15 PM
Cuz if you can't bring her along for good discourse wit the homies, you KNOW other folks gonna be side eyeing but....

if you don't give a fuck about all that, get your Dark Twisted fantasy on and when they mention she's a bird just be like "I know..."


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12778353, Emotional intelligence is FAR more important to me.
Posted by soulpsychodelicyde, Fri Apr-10-15 07:46 PM
12778495, they gotta be smart, but not necessarily book smart
Posted by J305, Sat Apr-11-15 10:13 AM
I've only dated one or 2 women who weren't either book or street smart. Can't really do it.

My wife regularly outsmarts me or calls me out when I try to get over on her from time to time (stupid stuff, nothing serious, I'm not a creep lol).

12778526, this question hits so close to home right now
Posted by astralblak, Sat Apr-11-15 11:32 AM
:/
12778548, they need to smart enough to see that i'm always right...
Posted by ndibs, Sat Apr-11-15 12:17 PM
i'm kidding. sort of. but ideally they're not very bright and accept i'm the smart one or they're smart enough to keep up and generally agree with me. men of average intelligence and that's most of them (90%) have no use for bright women. dumb men realize their life will be greatly improved by having someone brighter than them help them navigate the world and the very bright often enjoy an intellectual equal.
12778549, *breaks 4th wall*
Posted by cgonz00cc, Sat Apr-11-15 12:20 PM
12778551, Living Single Theme Song: https://youtu.be/n5P-Qgfl7Sc
Posted by legsdiamond, Sat Apr-11-15 12:24 PM
Living Single Theme Song: https://youtu.be/n5P-Qgfl7Sc
12778556, i don't know.
Posted by IkeMoses, Sat Apr-11-15 12:41 PM