>and then you just have to let go and trust your partner,
>right? whoooo that's tough, lol. what if he lies to avoid an
>argument? i guess you have to make sure whoever you're with is
>SUPER mature and, well, trustworthy.

the same is true if we'd made a commitment to monogamy.

>hmm...youre right. we really cant control what others do so
>i'd rather he be honest with me than lie to me.

that's how i feel about it. plus i'm not interested in monogamy and so i prefer an open relationship.

if other ppl feel differently that's fine. if they prefer monogamy and it works for them that's wonderful.