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12771572, do you ask for sex?
Posted by Deadzombie, Wed Dec-31-69 07:00 PM
asking, as a direct question.

'honey, may we have sex now?'

or do you decide to spend time pouring on a series of heavy-hints in hopes she'll get the picture and respond in kind?

how do you feel about being asked for sex?

do you think it's only appropriate for him to start 'turning you on' in some sort of smooth & steady way?

do you ever want to hear him say, can we have sex now?

Poll question: do you ask for sex?

Poll result (6 votes)
yes (5 votes)Vote
no (1 votes)Vote

  

12771575, i ask my wife if she wants wine or if i should put the dog in the basement
Posted by Cenario, Fri Apr-03-15 11:59 AM
12771593, subtle. i go with "babe, want some pain killers and plan B pills?"
Posted by ConcreteCharlie, Fri Apr-03-15 12:10 PM
but you do you.
12771962, cock-blocking dog all in the middle of the bed.
Posted by Amritsar, Fri Apr-03-15 08:55 PM
go patrol the house, Blue
12771579, should of broken down the answers by Yes/Married No/Married
Posted by ShinobiShaw, Fri Apr-03-15 12:00 PM
Yes/Relationshit No/Relationshit
12771607, everybody know married niggas aint getting no pussy ...
Posted by Deadzombie, Fri Apr-03-15 12:15 PM
... from their wife.
12771951, *sad (but true) trombone*
Posted by ConcreteCharlie, Fri Apr-03-15 08:29 PM
12771591, ask, no, but sometimes i will make it clear enough
Posted by ConcreteCharlie, Fri Apr-03-15 12:09 PM
like i'll be out with my jawn and it's 3AM and i'll say "babe let's leave in an hour, go back to the pad and kick it." just to make it clear that hell nah we are not staying out til 8AM and hell yes whenever we do get home we are showering up and fuuuuuuuuuckinngggggggggg. i aint listening to bad music all night and babysitting your drunk/drugged ass just to *not* get any pussy. and it applies in other situations but overall nah it's understood or done with a subtle advance. i would never ask like a kid begging for a cookie. well, unless i had to lol
12771596, i don't ask, I tell... tonight's the night!
Posted by legsdiamond, Fri Apr-03-15 12:11 PM
12771898, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ziQkBYd19SI
Posted by ConcreteCharlie, Fri Apr-03-15 04:55 PM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ziQkBYd19SI
12771599, Only for a round 2
Posted by NikaMandela, Fri Apr-03-15 12:12 PM
like "can we have sex again?"

12771631, ^^^^^^accurate and flaming hot
Posted by Binlahab, Fri Apr-03-15 12:27 PM
That is the only acceptable situation


does it really matter?

wonder what bin's doing?
http://i.imgur.com/phECCMp.jpg
12771632, ^^^^^^accurate and flaming hot
Posted by Binlahab, Fri Apr-03-15 12:27 PM
That is the only acceptable situation


does it really matter?

wonder what bin's doing?
http://i.imgur.com/phECCMp.jpg
12771901, respect
Posted by spades, Fri Apr-03-15 05:02 PM
12771602, not verbally, no.
Posted by Joe Corn Mo, Fri Apr-03-15 12:13 PM
i rarely ask for verbal permission to have sex.

as even every idiot know,
there are dozens, if not hundreds of ways to ask for sex,

and dozens, if not hundreds of ways to say yes.

or no.


it's only complicated
if you make it complicated...
as many misogynist and sex negative ppl often do.
12771613, is there something wrong in asking for permission, verbally?
Posted by Deadzombie, Fri Apr-03-15 12:18 PM
do you think it just shows a lack of imagination?

im sure some dude thought she said yes because of the way her breasts kept staring at him. he went in, but i think he shoulda got that 'permission'.
12771622, no.
Posted by Joe Corn Mo, Fri Apr-03-15 12:23 PM
i've done it before.
"you wanna fuck?"

i've done that, too.

>do you think it just shows a lack of imagination?
>


>im sure some dude thought she said yes because of the way her
>breasts kept staring at him. he went in,

and that dude would be a rapist
if he did not obtain some verbal
or non-verbal consent before going in.

but i think he
>shoulda got that 'permission'.

yes. there are dozens if not hundreds of verbal or non-verbal ways she could consent.

he should obtain one or several of those cues befoe he goes in.

do you have a hard time reading
those cues? is understanding
consent hard for you?

do you need a course to understand it?

apparently many ppl do,
because they have never learned to read verbal and non-verbal social cues.

12771902, It's weird
Posted by SimplyHannah, Fri Apr-03-15 05:04 PM
12771638, It's different in gay world tho.
Posted by Binlahab, Fri Apr-03-15 12:29 PM
If we don't get a solid yes we might get brought up on charges


does it really matter?

wonder what bin's doing?
http://i.imgur.com/phECCMp.jpg
12771647, no it's not.
Posted by Joe Corn Mo, Fri Apr-03-15 12:35 PM
in fact, gay men have to be
exceptionally aware of non-verbal cues to gauge consent.

if you grab a dude's dick
and he's NOT interested,
you might get beaten to death
with a pipe wrench.

(violence is a tool men have to
respond to unwanted sexual contact that women can't access
as easily, because men are stronger).

yet, men can and do get raped
when rapist ignore obvious non-verbal signs of lack of consent.

please, try again.

or don't, actually.




>If we don't get a solid yes we might get brought up on
>charges
>
>
>does it really matter?
>
>wonder what bin's doing?
>http://i.imgur.com/phECCMp.jpg
12771624, I sent my lover a lovely text this morning....
Posted by Trinity444, Fri Apr-03-15 12:24 PM
"sometimes" I like when he does it...
12771627, only ask for anal, threesomes and anniversary passes
Posted by atruhead, Fri Apr-03-15 12:25 PM
12771630, anniversary passes?
Posted by Deadzombie, Fri Apr-03-15 12:26 PM
12771633, yeah 10 year anniversary, 5 years since she caught you cheating etc.
Posted by atruhead, Fri Apr-03-15 12:27 PM
12771629, The fastest way to ensure you get no pussy in my experience
Posted by Binlahab, Fri Apr-03-15 12:25 PM
I basically go the caveman route and keep kissing and licking body parts until she either is like no I'm serious I will fucking tase you or gets with the program

If you got to ask you will not be getting laid


does it really matter?

wonder what bin's doing?
http://i.imgur.com/phECCMp.jpg
12771636, no you don't.
Posted by Joe Corn Mo, Fri Apr-03-15 12:28 PM
you use non-verbal social cues to gauge consent.

unless you are a rapist,
which i assume you are not.


>I basically go the caveman route and keep kissing and licking
>body parts until she either is like no I'm serious I will
>fucking tase you or gets with the program
>
>If you got to ask you will not be getting laid
>
>
>does it really matter?
>
>wonder what bin's doing?
>http://i.imgur.com/phECCMp.jpg
12771650, i feel sorry for one of my earlier girlfriends.
Posted by Deadzombie, Fri Apr-03-15 12:37 PM
i had a terrible habit, that i just couldn't shake.

we used to watch television together on the bed/futon.

the kind of television with commercials.

and for whatever reason, i'd convinced myself that commercial breaks = sex breaks.

every commercial break.

without fail.

as soon as the commercials started i wouldn't say anything - i'd just go to-town kissing. kissing everywhere and everything. i'd get to humping something. never any words. just loud kisses.

so, commercials don't really last that long and by the time the show came back on, i usually hardly made any real progress.

but i didn't take it as defeat. another commercial break was coming up and we could reset that shit. i could try out some other 'get you in the mood quick' move.

sure she kept gently pushing me away, but i just thought that was all part of the 'act'.

she must've really loved me to put up with that shit.

i mean, every commercial break. for real.
12771652, i don't doubt that for a second.
Posted by Joe Corn Mo, Fri Apr-03-15 12:39 PM
>i had a terrible habit, that i just couldn't shake.
>
>we used to watch television together on the bed/futon.
>
>the kind of television with commercials.
>
>and for whatever reason, i'd convinced myself that commercial
>breaks = sex breaks.
>
>every commercial break.
>
>without fail.
>
>as soon as the commercials started i wouldn't say anything -
>i'd just go to-town kissing. kissing everywhere and
>everything. i'd get to humping something. never any words.
>just loud kisses.
>
>so, commercials don't really last that long and by the time
>the show came back on, i usually hardly made any real
>progress.
>
>but i didn't take it as defeat. another commercial break was
>coming up and we could reset that shit. i could try out some
>other 'get you in the mood quick' move.
>
>sure she kept gently pushing me away, but i just thought that
>was all part of the 'act'.
>
>she must've really loved me to put up with that shit.
>
>i mean, every commercial break. for real.
12771958, http://38.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lzkmg9t6bv1r6ycrio1_500.gif
Posted by SHAstayhighalways, Fri Apr-03-15 08:48 PM
http://38.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lzkmg9t6bv1r6ycrio1_500.gif
12771971, does it matter that she was the first woman to give me head?
Posted by Deadzombie, Fri Apr-03-15 09:42 PM
12771699, what you're saying is: men....be mind readers.
Posted by Binlahab, Fri Apr-03-15 01:12 PM
Decipher your lovers body language to ascertain if they in fact would like some penis

Well sir, I assure I am not a mind reader. I also reject the ides that the impetus to figure the shit out is always *my* responsibility.

If I wanna fuck, and youre mine....take your clothes off. Its going down and by it, I mean me...until you finally gap open

And when she wants to get it in...get on top of me and do your business. I'm totally ok with being stunt dick.

But hell no to verbally asking or to somehow figuring out by the turgidity or lack thereof of her nipples that shes with it

We are grown, we have needs...lay your ass back and get in the mood if youre not already or...

12771709, i am saying, men....pay attention.
Posted by Joe Corn Mo, Fri Apr-03-15 01:18 PM
i grabbed a guys dick in the club once.

I once blew a guy in the showers
when I was in the army.

I knew that was okay,
because he told me so non-verbally before I tried to blow him.

had he not told me that non-verbally, i wouldn't have blown him.


it's not hard to figure out.

why are you pretending that it is?



>Decipher your lovers body language to ascertain if they in
>fact would like some penis
>
>Well sir, I assure I am not a mind reader. I also reject the
>ides that the impetus to figure the shit out is always *my*
>responsibility.
>
>If I wanna fuck, and youre mine....take your clothes off. Its
>going down and by it, I mean me...until you finally gap open
>
>And when she wants to get it in...get on top of me and do your
>business. I'm totally ok with being stunt dick.
>
>But hell no to verbally asking or to somehow figuring out by
>the turgidity or lack thereof of her nipples that shes with
>it
>
>We are grown, we have needs...lay your ass back and get in the
>mood if youre not already or...
>
>
12771644, I have definitely hit a "Can we just have sex?" Lolol No shame over here
Posted by ThisIs_ATruthThang, Fri Apr-03-15 12:31 PM
I've had to have done this more than once but the last time I can remember... We were arguing about something and it made me horny. Lol I just stopped and was like, "Can we just have sex now?" lolol...

It was SOOOOO good too...
12771903, i try to be as crass as possible - ex. u want summa dis dick?
Posted by 2.tears.in.a.bucket, Fri Apr-03-15 05:10 PM
it makes me feel better
12771911, this is my life....
Posted by bayoubyyou, Fri Apr-03-15 05:44 PM
12771912, haha - great minds think alike!
Posted by 2.tears.in.a.bucket, Fri Apr-03-15 06:03 PM
.
12771939, but on the third day...
Posted by Trinity444, Fri Apr-03-15 07:50 PM
my lover swears the first time I stayed over we got busy
yet I remember the night clearly

I woke up to him rubbing my butt
and I smacked his hand...

in between snores he kept at it
no happens

even tho I was in my draws and a tank top...


12771942, now, see!!! Why put that man through that...
Posted by Dstl1, Fri Apr-03-15 07:59 PM
you coulda just got in bed in some old ass flea market Gucci sweatpants and a hair wrap and at least he'd have known it wasn't going down.
12771948, lol - it was late...
Posted by Trinity444, Fri Apr-03-15 08:10 PM
i hadn't plan to stay over
besides who sleeps in all those clothes lol
12771969, Maybe playfully but for the most part....
Posted by The Wordsmith, Fri Apr-03-15 09:34 PM
....I just make a move. Not really about asking for it.




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