then it's in your dating. Regarding the race aspect of it, I think that's fine too. Here's the thing, I've dated someone who had issues with race/complexion before and that shit was maddening. It would've saved a lot of time if they kept it real with themselves and dated what they like. While I think people should question where their preferences come from and what they're motivated by, I've never been interested in being a stop on anyone's journey to racial/ethnic enlightenment. I prefer a person already have that shit figured out.