Perhaps the help that this couple received occurred years before in having their education paid for in full or being gifted their first car which transformed into savings that allowed them to buy a house later on. Was this the moment for them to atone for that? If we're asking people to stop being "puss*es," who is the bigger one in this situation? The person who comes to a message board to recount a situation in which his spouse projected her insecurities onto an acquaintance or the person who, when confronted with a passive aggressive comment, responds. If they had accosted these two about their unearned wealth directly, I may be willing to buy your argument. Otherwise, you are not in the position to call anyone out.