this is all just so tacky...

instead of wondering how they are getting what they got, why not focus on trying to get more of what you need to get where you want to be?

this is one of the biggest mistakes black people make...comparing themselves to others and wondering WHY they aren't in the same position. and because you can't figure out how they do it, they must have gotten help. the fact is, they might have help, but if they do, that's not your business and to say "that makes me feel better" because now you can "accept" what you don't have because no one else would have it either without help when that's no way true.