If most of the people in your circle got help from their parents, it kind of goes without saying...if YOU didn't and are in the home of someone that did, of course that's going to be a big deal for you, but for alot of people, that's the way it is (and should be)

At the same time, making a joke about their house in comparison to yours was tacky. Of course they aren't going to say they got help bc ya'll clearly feel a way about it. Is it understandable why you feel a way about it...sure. But that got more to do with ya'll then them. Why should they have to be fully transparent about their personal business to make you feel better about yourself?