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Topic subjectI'm surprised when my straight male friends & colleagues want to hug me
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12763222, I'm surprised when my straight male friends & colleagues want to hug me
Posted by Goldmind, Wed Mar-25-15 09:46 PM
A few of them *insist* on hugging me, brushing off my attempt to give dap or a handshake when I see them. I'm even caught off guard when my 25-year-old cousin bear hugs me, even though he's been doing it for years now.

It makes me sad that I would assume that they wouldn't want to embrace me, that my affection is only safe at arm's length. Homophobia has given me intimacy issues, even in my friendships.