maybe we should cut to the chase call this 'weak' and 'soft' thing what it is - we condition our boys so they won't be 'weak' or 'soft' b/c those are feminine/womanly traits.

and, of course, one the reasons homosexuality among men makes us so uncomfortable is that those men are exhibiting womanly behavior. even if they're not effeminate they still have sex w/men. one or both of them even receives a penis in his mouth and/or anus. so one or both of them is acting like a woman.

and we hate women so we think men debase themselves where they behave like women.

if we honored women then homosexuality among men wouldn't bother us at all. we might even prize it.

but that's all getting too deep, maybe.