you are not a bad person if you avoid platonic touch w/other men b/c it feels wrong or gay. it's not your fault. you are blameless. you were conditioned that way and can't help it. if you never get over it it's not a judgment on you it's on the way you were brought up. it is not your fault.

i myself am pretty homophobic. i think we gays are the most homophobic ppl on the planet. even us out gays. i said below - i limit my platonic touching of other men EVEN GAY ONES b/c i don't want to make them uncomfortable. b/c i am projecting my own internalized homophobia. and i think i'm awesome even though i'm also a homophobe.

so if you are one (and sorry, but you are) it's not your fault. you are not a bad person. you aren't deficient b/c of it. it's not about you it's about your conditioning.

(see Com? i'm extending my hand in love. platonically though).