but it's just where our society is at unfortunately. At some point,
as straight men we have to get over ourselves and realize that
just because a man is gay doesn't mean he's attracted to us or
wants to cop a feel by greeting us lol - it's such a ridiculous phobia
but most straight men have it. I use to have that phobia as well but
realized that I hug women (and males in my family) with not a second
thought of whether they are trying to inappropriately grope me.

That's interesting that this applies to your gay friends as well. I never
thought about the expansiveness of homophobia as affecting how they
interact and perceive their masculinity but that's an interesting layer
I hadn't even considered.


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