http://abcnews.go.com/Entertainment/eva-mendes-calls-sweatpants-number-divorce/story?id=29750363


....


this CLEARLY illustrates the difference between white people and Black people because aint much sexier than a big booty gal in some sweats (if you have access to her vagina)

walking around the kitchen with that thang on sway?! *bites knuckle*

my caucasians, however, apparently think this is HELLA unsexy.

weird.


does it really matter?

wonder what bin's doing?
http://i.imgur.com/phECCMp.jpg

Someone please help me understand what it is that is going over my head.

"Mendes, 41, said that her her daughter with actor Ryan Gosling has begun sleeping through the night, though "something random can happen," and that they will be shot."

they didnt' sleep through the night either, and therefore will be
shot/tired in the morning

either that or its a warning to intruders tryna break in the crib

I was sitting here in awe like, what the fuck is she talking about?!?

to the point where if she wears em enough you'd be like gee...i dont want to have sex w/ this one anymore & put her on waivers?

no.


does it really matter?

wonder what bin's doing?
http://i.imgur.com/phECCMp.jpg

regardless of what i want to do.

i did not know this unspoken rule between men and women.

really shocking.


does it really matter?

wonder what bin's doing?
http://i.imgur.com/phECCMp.jpg

I mean its not a hard and fast rule, but alot of women wearing sweats to be comfortable. Even if you think she look sexy in sweats, she not putting them on bc she thinking about you. Don't mean you def ain't getting none, but you might wanna get her glass of wine first no cosby-o

means menstruation time.

nor did I. shit, we both put on sweats pretty much the minute we get home. i have a uniform that i'd be wearing probably 9/10 anyone ever sees me at home. we like being comfortable.

i mean, are people lounging around the house still fully clothed? like in jeans/slacks, a skirt/dress or whatever you wore to work?

If i'm doing something in the house, then i'll probably have on bball shorts and she will likely have on some around the house shorts or tights or sweats. The sweats just mean she ain't thinking bout me or she bout to put together a bookcase.

>
>i mean, are people lounging around the house still fully
>clothed? like in jeans/slacks, a skirt/dress or whatever you
>wore to work?

>The sweats just mean she
>ain't thinking bout me or she bout to put together a
>bookcase.

at herself.

It works for her, so it works for me.

housework, read a book or someone bout to stop by the house.

If she putting on sweats and getting in the bed, then she don't want me to keep her warm :-(

but if she comes home and puts them on and walks around the house...

I still got a shot.

they slide off easy too...

ryan gosling obviously told her hes not feeling her in sweats or she got it from SOMEwhere sooo


does it really matter?

wonder what bin's doing?
http://i.imgur.com/phECCMp.jpg

>ryan gosling obviously told her hes not feeling her in sweats
>or she got it from SOMEwhere sooo


i wouldn't blame ryan
women we take on our own shakles when it comes to these things
and ryan seems laid back
nothing about him seems of feels like he cares that intensely about appearance

and she's latina to boot
its like being a southern black woman
appearance is EVERYTHING
i'd blame her upbringing and heritage and gender a lot faster in this case


and you know i'm waiting to blame men for shit
#misogyny
~~~~
When you are born, you cry, and the world rejoices. Live so that when you die, you rejoice, and the world cries.
~~~~
You cannot hate people for their own good.

i honestly didnt know that.

so i think this is a multifaceted thing here

not just a straight forward wear sweats, get divorced thing


does it really matter?

wonder what bin's doing?
http://i.imgur.com/phECCMp.jpg

you watch shit like knocked up.


does it really matter?

wonder what bin's doing?
http://i.imgur.com/phECCMp.jpg

http://i.imgur.com/kamV6Im.jpg

the had the thing where if Bateman doesn't get home before wifey puts them on, its a wrap.

I'm confusing my Leslie Manns with my Kristen Wiigs.

Sweatpants = some lazy shit.

It's a joke, but it's some real shit. There are a lot of comfortable "around the house" -type clothes that still look good on someone. And there are a lot of single folks rocking raggedy shit around the crib wondering why they can't stay someone's #1.

obviously is shes laying down IN the sweats...thats one thing.

but if shes just walking around in sweats...? ass jiggling?! cmon.

must be just me


does it really matter?

wonder what bin's doing?
http://i.imgur.com/phECCMp.jpg

out there bro.

Nah, man. I tried, but I just don't see anything sexy about these:

https://www.google.com/search?q=black+woman+sweatpants&es_sm=93&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ei=QigMVcylG8LZsATF6oGwCw&ved=0CAgQ_AUoAg&biw=1366&bih=677

Maybe if I'm watching her jog in front of me at the track all sweaty, but not in the crib at bedtime.

Search "lingerie" under google images (if you can at the gig) and feel the drastic difference in how you respond biologically, lol.

along w/the sweats comes hair that's not done, teeth that aren't brushed, ass that's unwashed, legs unshaved, et al.

it's the lack of maintenance. that's the issue. the failure to keep up one's appearance in an effort to be physically attractive to one's spouse.

but you're only acting brand new. you know exactly what she's saying and are trying to make a funny about white ppl like THIS v black ppl like THAT. we see it.

go on.

>along w/the sweats comes hair that's not done, teeth that
>aren't brushed, ass that's unwashed, legs unshaved, et al.
>
>it's the lack of maintenance. that's the issue. the failure
>to keep up one's appearance in an effort to be physically
>attractive to one's spouse.
>

some days you just gotta take it as is. I'm good w/ that.

making up excuses to run for the hills.

Married dudes are kinda stuck with that. Men that aren't married have a little more leverage about these things.

disco
house
the inherent cornballness of chicago as a city
beating ones kids

everything else?

youre dismissed


does it really matter?

wonder what bin's doing?
http://i.imgur.com/phECCMp.jpg

b/c i KNOW you are not this dense. you are just pretending for lulz.

if you are actually this stupid i'm shocked you can put your shoes on the correct feet. and you can so i know you're not as dumb as you pretend to be in the OP. you want the lulz. i see it.

hoe sit down


does it really matter?

wonder what bin's doing?
http://i.imgur.com/phECCMp.jpg

you never had hamburger helper, sir?! GO AWAY ROGER


does it really matter?

wonder what bin's doing?
http://i.imgur.com/phECCMp.jpg

because I think they're way different than what everyone else is thinking.

I feel you tho, Bin.

I don't know these new cats or how they think.

in record numbers...

niggas so quick to give up on the quest for ass...

ole "tap out before the bell rings" ass niggas

only a matter of time before its 00s turn & thats when ALLL these damn mitchell & ness jerseys are gonna help pay for my kids college


does it really matter?

wonder what bin's doing?
http://i.imgur.com/phECCMp.jpg

all them sh*ts is cut like stirrups with the straps cut off.

They're like male yoga pants and sh*t. sweat pants should be loose and baggy but naw, they cut like leotards and hammerpants.


All that is fine for women...but as a man, i need nut breavin room.

too tall and skinny for that crap

.

or been with for a little while in sweatpants (or anything) and your wife of X amount of years in sweats.

thats sad.


does it really matter?

wonder what bin's doing?
http://i.imgur.com/phECCMp.jpg

so much internalized crap
~~~~
When you are born, you cry, and the world rejoices. Live so that when you die, you rejoice, and the world cries.
~~~~
You cannot hate people for their own good.

in front of her hubby.

and it was not sexy. it was basically baggy sweats and a t-shirt everyday. even walking outside in that with a baseball cap on.

i think leggings and a camisol are a better idea.

she will be divorced in a year or 2 so take that advice with a grain of salt.

its not just the sweats.

its the same mentality of a woman who cares more about *getting* married than maintaining an actual marriage.

.

how many of yall cosigning this shit actually live with an SO?

Sweats and busted gear out in public.. sure, I get it. However, most people in here are talking about sweats around the house.

No one is a long term relationship is prancing around trying to keep it cute all the time.

That is a myth, a lie, a unicorn.

I'm all for keeping it intetesting and sexy but real relationships last when you chill the fuck out and stop acting like your mate needs to impress you at all times.

Maybe I'm jaded but it seems like people who have these rules are usually super single.

>how many of yall cosigning this shit actually live with an
>SO?

i do.

and her point is well taken - relationships can become strained when folks stop trying to be attractive for each other.

stop focusing on the sweats. it's not about the sweats. it's about the spouses remembering the importance of seduction.

her point w/the sweats was simple - many women wear them b/c they're comfortable w/o any thought about how attractive they appear. when married women stop thinking about trying to be sexy for their spouse it can create trouble. or it's a sign of existing trouble.

that's it. that's all she's saying, i think.

>>how many of yall cosigning this shit actually live with an
>>SO?
>
>i do.
>
>and her point is well taken - relationships can become
>strained when folks stop trying to be attractive for each
>other.
>
>stop focusing on the sweats. it's not about the sweats. it's
>about the spouses remembering the importance of seduction.
>
>her point w/the sweats was simple - many women wear them b/c
>they're comfortable w/o any thought about how attractive they
>appear. when married women stop thinking about trying to be
>sexy for their spouse it can create trouble. or it's a sign
>of existing trouble.
>
>that's it. that's all she's saying, i think.
>

Nah...I think this is what YOU are saying, lol

it's key that she brought this up in the context of being a mom. b/c it's easy for marrieds w/children to put so much focus on the kids that they take each other for granted. her larger point is that it's dangerous for spouses to take each other for granted. in her world that sort of taking for granted is manifested in wearing sweats. in your world it takes some other form.

if you are actually married or if you've spent enough quality time around married ppl to develop some insight into their world then you should understand where she's coming from fairly easily.

of course, if you're more interested in a 'gotcha!' thing it's also pretty easy to take her statement out of context or to exaggerate the statement to serve some point she wasn't making.

she went wrong where she extrapolated som'n specific she does to make HER man happy and projected that on all wives. b/c plenty wives have spouses who don't mind them wearing comfy clothes around the house and some are even turned on by that. but her main point was uncontroversial - it's important to remember do those things that make your spouse happy. marriages get in trouble when spouses get so focused on kids or something(s) else that they stop doing those things that make their spouse happy. when they take for granted that they can keep the spouse w/o doing those specific things they know their spouse likes.

the mentality of sweats has NEVER killed a marriage.

Sometimes, yall want to chill in some bummy shit and so do we.

Excuse my french but not fucking or sucking WITH LOVE kills marriages.

Yall kill me with these bogus excuses for why marriages don't last.

it is about spouses doing __ to seduce each other.

period.

you ain't too far gone to know that.

if you absolutely love it when your wife wears men's t-shirts and she used to wear them often before y'all got married and for the first few yrs of your marriage she wore them sometimes but less frequently and then she stops wearing them even though she knows wearing them turns you on...that can create a problem. or it can be a sign of a problem.

the point isn't any deeper than that.

I said its not about the sweats...

I said not fucking or sucking with love is what really kills marriages but keep typing.

and i am smarter than you so you should definitely keep reading and learning.

i'm smarter and better looking than you. it's cool.

You nailed it. I do feel like we HAVE to say, that's more about correlation than causation.

even walking outside in that with a baseball
>cap on.
>
>i think leggings and a camisol are a better idea.


Fuck your fort!

http://media.tumblr.com/2e5ce5ef7d09e7da7ae72f245050ebb9/tumblr_inline_mumthwqI5j1r4gjsq.jpg

upkeep is costly for us, and i'm not even talking about getting hair/nails done, etc.

and of course on our own dime too
nevermind we gotta deal with our SOs in ratty ass school shirts/sweaters and ripped up basketball shorts.

RESPECT IT!

Maybe its because my hubby and I are such gym nuts that this rule does not apply in our home. I'm always in workout clothes. So, that is no indicator that the hubby isn't going get any.

The indicator is if the munchkin is in the bed with us.

LOL!

Great in sweats

.

.

Offering easy access for shit to pop off.

It's meant that for me since high school.

anyway, who wears sweats now that we have jeggings? Jeggings to me are like polyester stretch pants for my mom.

~ ~ ~
All meetings end in separation
All acquisition ends in dispersion
All life ends in death
- The Buddha

|\_/|
='_'=

Every hundred years, all new people

and fuck the shit outta my man..

this article does not compute.

...

Vee is I and I am She

...

http://twitter.com/#!/Phenomenality
http://instagram.com/therealphenomenality
http://phenomenality.tumblr.com/archive

she's talking about what happens when spouses stop trying to make themselves attractive for each other. when they give up. when they start taking each other for granted - at least when it comes to the physical aspects.

it communicates something to your spouse when you stop trying to seduce them. when you don't give a shit about being sexy for your mate. it says a lot. it hurts.

ha ha.. this 'Murica son!! you know you can't use logic and reason..

sweats aint causing no problems

Sweats are welcomed in my house. My wife has a phatty, so the sweats just accentuate it. She puts it on with nothing under most times...sheeeiittt

The headscarf though...that means she's done for the day with EVERYBODY (doesn't bother me one way or the other)

It's cool to want to look good/great for your SO. It's better (imo) when you don't have to try and your SO still can't keep their hands off you. If you think you look your worst and your SO is still very much attracted to you, you've won at life

>The headscarf though...that means she's done for the day with
>EVERYBODY (doesn't bother me one way or the other)
>

This is hilarious ^^^


>It's cool to want to look good/great for your SO. It's better
>(imo) when you don't have to try and your SO still can't keep
>their hands off you. If you think you look your worst and your
>SO is still very much attracted to you, you've won at life
>

I think a lot of people have a dating mentality when discussing this. All it means is she is in the house relaxing...

A coworker told me she goes home and puts heels on to walk around the house. She old school and from Mississippi... oh, and her husbands a preacher.

>A coworker told me she goes home and puts heels on to walk
>around the house. She old school and from Mississippi... oh,
>and her husbands a preacher.


*wearing old carpenter shorts and a tank under a hoodie, and so what*

you know what turns him on. do you ever do that thing or those things that turn him on b/c you want to seduce him?

b/c homegirl's point is about the danger of spouses neglecting to do things to seduce their mate.

that's what she means when she says 'sweats'.

The "look good for someone else" thing

It's a major issue
And women do it to themselves enough

As long as folks are hygienic
The rest?
For the birds
~~~~
When you are born, you cry, and the world rejoices. Live so that when you die, you rejoice, and the world cries.
~~~~
You cannot hate people for their own good.

spouses can run into trouble when they're no longer willing to seduce each other.

what that looks like will vary wildly, of course.

It's coming across as supporting what sepia called "that southern belle crap"
And even your clarification still sounds too close to you have to please your partner sexually and visually
Women have already internalized that excessively and that's actually what Eva has internalized and is referring to
It's very Cosmo
~~~~
When you are born, you cry, and the world rejoices. Live so that when you die, you rejoice, and the world cries.
~~~~
You cannot hate people for their own good.

>It's coming across as supporting what sepia called "that
>southern belle crap"

i don't have a problem w/that SBC if all parties involved are into it and no one is being exploited or taken for granted. if everyone is getting what they want then that's awesome.

if a woman wants to make her man happy by wearing high heels around the house and she's fine w/it then i love it for her.

>And even your clarification still sounds too close to you have
>to please your partner sexually and visually

uh..yeah. you do. you have to please your partner sexually and visually. yes. what that looks like will vary wildly. but, yes. and it's true for both spouses in any given marriage. yes.

>Women have already internalized that excessively and that's
>actually what Eva has internalized and is referring to
>It's very Cosmo

*shrugs*

Cosmo ain't wrong all the time.

Yeah agreeing with Cosmo
Is a No.
~~~~
When you are born, you cry, and the world rejoices. Live so that when you die, you rejoice, and the world cries.
~~~~
You cannot hate people for their own good.

When we go out to impress, sure.. I want my wife to look good.

Personally tho, I have always had long term relationships with women I met on the humble when we were both in some everyday whatever.

I like my women without makeup, eyelashed, nails, hair, etc... I can see the real you and then everything after that is a plus.

I would never serioudly date a woman who ONLY lets me see her when she is dolled up. That korning after when a stranger rolls over next to you is scary. Where is your face?

sowhat is using sweats as cover for everything else that makes a relationship fail. I dont think this is what she was saying.

i've made myself pretty clear and so if you can't understand my point by now (and you don't if what you typed is true) then oh well.

It can be tricky
And the cultural signifiers are different but yes this is as problematic as those abs after pregnancy women
The signals being sent are classic
~~~~
When you are born, you cry, and the world rejoices. Live so that when you die, you rejoice, and the world cries.
~~~~
You cannot hate people for their own good.

and rightly so.

i wouldn't stay w/a man who wasn't interested in turning me on sometimes. not necessarily every day all the time but yeah...he's gonna have to do those things i like (w/in reason) if he wants to keep me. and i do those things he likes (w/in reason) b/c i want to keep him. we have to sacrifice for each other or else our thing won't work as well as it could.

just be honest and say you want out...

If I'm with a man who isn't interested in pleasing me visually I would want to leave. Of course I'm not holding him to it if he's physically unable bc he's sick or injured. But otherwise I want him to want to make me happy as I want to make him happy. I'd want to turn him on visually too. If he doesn't want to give that back it would hurt.

You've got work to do
~~~~
When you are born, you cry, and the world rejoices. Live so that when you die, you rejoice, and the world cries.
~~~~
You cannot hate people for their own good.

i'm fine w/YOU disagreeing w/me on this.

you keep living. you'll see it.

between that and the sweatpants argument is that wearing sweatpants is
frequently, if not almost daily, done for one's own comfort.

Dressing up to please your mate is a special thing to do for him/her when you feel like it.

One sounds like sacrificing your daily chill routine because your mate wants you to.
The other sounds like doing special things for your mate because you want to.

If her point was that you shouldn't neglect doing things to seduce your mate,
she's right. If your mate's making you happy, make them happy too.

But she did a terrible job of phrasing that point if that's what she meant.



>you know what turns him on. do you ever do that thing or
>those things that turn him on b/c you want to seduce him?
>
>b/c homegirl's point is about the danger of spouses neglecting
>to do things to seduce their mate.
>
>that's what she means when she says 'sweats'.
>
>

>
>But she did a terrible job of phrasing that point if that's
>what she meant.
>


Celebs been putting their entire foot in their mouths lately

And she's talking about after having a baby?

Lawd this chile


~~~~
When you are born, you cry, and the world rejoices. Live so that when you die, you rejoice, and the world cries.
~~~~
You cannot hate people for their own good.

>between that and the sweatpants argument is that wearing
>sweatpants is
>frequently, if not almost daily, done for one's own comfort.

homegirl's mistake was taking an example from her life and applying it generally. the bigger point is a good one though - it's important not to take your spouse for granted by failing to do the things your spouse likes.

>Dressing up to please your mate is a special thing to do for
>him/her when you feel like it.

yes. i agree.

>One sounds like sacrificing your daily chill routine because
>your mate wants you to.

and that's too much. i don't agree there and i doubt that was what Eva meant.

she knows what her man likes and she is willing to please him by doing what he likes. in her world that means she never wears sweatpants. that's fine w/me. i don't agree that all wives shouldn't wear sweatpants b/c there are plenty wives married to spouses who dig seeing their wife in sweats - as evidenced by the replies in here.

but her larger point is cool w/me - don't take your spouse for granted. don't forget to do the things that please your spouse and keep them interested. those things will likely change as time passes. but doing that stuff seems important. i know i would be hurt if my spouse stopped trying to please me.


>The other sounds like doing special things for your mate
>because you want to.

yes.

>If her point was that you shouldn't neglect doing things to
>seduce your mate,
>she's right.

that's what i think she's saying.

If your mate's making you happy, make them happy
>too.

right on.

>But she did a terrible job of phrasing that point if that's
>what she meant.

yup.

~~~~
When you are born, you cry, and the world rejoices. Live so that when you die, you rejoice, and the world cries.
~~~~
You cannot hate people for their own good.

I thought she was talking about gaining weight

I'm pretty sure she has a "how to keep a man" handbook that was passed down by her elders.