last thing you want is for your woman to feel stupid (and i'm adding humiliated in this as well)

and being that stupid/obvious makes a lady thing 1. you don't care 2. you think she's that stupid or sprung or 3. both

not to say hiding it is honorable/acceptable but there's something to be said about the attempt if someone is really considering staying (which would be dumb)

i'm still with esb on it but i see where you're coming from