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12744022, dating and your bad habits/vices
Posted by double negative, Fri Mar-06-15 11:43 AM
i was chopping it up about this recently

and

I realize that all of my bad habits - drinking, being a workaholic, being a total loner, etc

are all things I worry about when it comes to the game

some people just take the "take me as I am, warts and all" stance

however, as an ex-smoker I know whats it like to have to break someone in on your bad habits and when I smoked I had the thought of

"we cool, just dont start nagging me about smoking or trying to get me to quit"

now, I feel the same way about all of my current vices

what about ya'll,

GAF

or

DGAF?
12744027, weed is the first one I can think of
Posted by BabySoulRebel, Fri Mar-06-15 11:53 AM
I've dated casual smokers and non-smokers
I'm a daily toker
it's been a source of indirect tension, nothing said outright but I've gotten "the look" plus plenty of sighs
*shrug*
I'm relatively young, childless, live alone
I'm gonna do wtf I want and includes smoking when I feel like it which is why I prefer smokers. Even with the "I don't but I don't mind if you do" crowd, I find myself worrying about if they smell like it too etc.
plus it enhances makeup sex after an argument by a hundred thousand trillion if you smoke the hash-it-out blunt and THEN fuck.
12744032, ^ sees it.
Posted by Joe Corn Mo, Fri Mar-06-15 11:58 AM
12744040, <<< passes the dutchie pon the left-hand side
Posted by BabySoulRebel, Fri Mar-06-15 12:03 PM
12744464, we >< once again
Posted by ConcreteCharlie, Fri Mar-06-15 11:21 PM
12744029, addicts tend to hang with other addicts for a reason.
Posted by Joe Corn Mo, Fri Mar-06-15 11:56 AM
i can't see myself in a relationship with
anybody that is judgy about drug use. (nicotine, alcohol, whatever)

life is too long
to put up with bullshit like that.
12744042, i say this as a man who smokes cigars and played poker 4-5 nights a week
Posted by esb225, Fri Mar-06-15 12:04 PM
if you find the right person you may not quit cold turkey but u will respect their wishes and pull back
now again there is compromise so you will need that but if they can accept you pulling back you can make it all work

it takes time to find the right person though.
12744052, If a chick doesn't like me smoking weed then she can keep it moving.
Posted by 8-bit, Fri Mar-06-15 12:15 PM
That's the only vice I really have. I stopped trying to compromise on this in my early 20s, when some Newport-smoking chick had the nerve to get mad at my weed smoke (back when you could smoke indoors), talking about "weed smoke is stronger." FOH.


I think the most judgy are the reformed _______s. You know, the chick that did mad drugs, but now has found God and judges your casual partaking. Or the dude that stayed drunk & high, but now wants to act like the blunt is the devil's dick. Yeah, they can save all that rap for the mirror.
12744058, http://youtu.be/heW3TziyFLI
Posted by legsdiamond, Fri Mar-06-15 12:23 PM
http://youtu.be/heW3TziyFLI
12744055, I could never deal with the smell
Posted by afrogirl_lost, Fri Mar-06-15 12:21 PM
It's on everything. Clothes, furniture...ughh.
12744072, me neither, i quit.
Posted by double negative, Fri Mar-06-15 12:36 PM
12744178, It continues to release toxins as well
Posted by initiationofplato, Fri Mar-06-15 02:01 PM
for a long time after the smoke has left the room.
12744123, hell, i dumped a guy in part b/c of 1 of his vices.
Posted by SoWhat, Fri Mar-06-15 01:23 PM
it was more than i could handle largely b/c i was afraid he'd drag me down w/him.

i didn't lecture him about it ever. i accepted it and when it was too much for me (along w/other facts about him, btw) i just left him alone.
12744142, Whoever you wit is going to change you, might as well pick the person
Posted by Buddy_Gilapagos, Fri Mar-06-15 01:38 PM
who is going to change you in a positive way that makes you more like the person you want to be.


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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"One of the most important things in life is what Judge Learned Hand described as 'that ever-gnawing inner doubt as to whether you're r
12744152, ^^^
Posted by legsdiamond, Fri Mar-06-15 01:46 PM
12744160, hmm that's an interesting outlook
Posted by EMATI, Fri Mar-06-15 01:51 PM
one i hadnt really considered
acceptance of the probable change that occurs in relationships
i see your point
especially if a person is looking for a spouse or long time mate

i'm kind of good with my vice
i dont particularly want to be changed
at this point i'm looking for acceptance in my relationships
especially if it's not serious

i'm not really interested in changing anyone either
or getting them to curb their vice
dating implies limited spurts of having to deal
but when it gets more serious is when you have to make decisions & value judgements


--
Someone out there knows what happened to Mitrice Richardson
12744186, that real. I thank the women in my past for who I am today
Posted by double negative, Fri Mar-06-15 02:12 PM
12744349, this is devastating.
Posted by Deadzombie, Fri Mar-06-15 05:35 PM
this why i feel bad for all the suckers i see wearing a wedding ring.

they stopped wanting to have fun.
12744146, I don't date smokers. Saves me not wanting to kiss you
Posted by ThisIs_ATruthThang, Fri Mar-06-15 01:43 PM
I lost a lot of "good" dudes with this but whatever. I HATE the smell and the taste of cigs and weed. I hate feeling like I can't kiss you over be over your house.

I don't try and change people at this stage in life, I'm trying to better myself. I don't have the time and energy to try and change the next person.

I currently "deal" with my ex and he smokes. He's totally off my list of husband material but just in the capacity that we deal it sucks because he smokes.
12744154, no weed? no wonder you have exes who keep contacting you
Posted by legsdiamond, Fri Mar-06-15 01:48 PM
weed is the ultimate "man, fuck that (insert whatever is stressing you out)"
12744159, Lolol I'm pretty sure some of them smoke weed NOW
Posted by ThisIs_ATruthThang, Fri Mar-06-15 01:51 PM
12744150, what do u do when women are your vice
Posted by ambient1, Fri Mar-06-15 01:46 PM
:-/
12744157, Pimp hard....
Posted by ThisIs_ATruthThang, Fri Mar-06-15 01:50 PM
12744162, become crisco 2.0
Posted by double negative, Fri Mar-06-15 01:52 PM
12744153, i'm not very communicative when it comes to feelings
Posted by nayaa, Fri Mar-06-15 01:47 PM
and have very little patience

terrible combo.
12744163, how do date?
Posted by double negative, Fri Mar-06-15 01:52 PM
that sounds frustrating!
12744351, have you been paying ANY attn?! she dont. nm
Posted by Binlahab, Fri Mar-06-15 05:38 PM

does it really matter?

wonder what bin's doing?
http://i.imgur.com/phECCMp.jpg
12744155, ive learned that its best just to lay all cards on the table sooner
Posted by mikediggz, Fri Mar-06-15 01:48 PM
than later and work from there. if there are any deal breakers on either side get that shit out the way asap and keep it movin.
12744352, im a oversharing egomaniac, w/ abandonment issues
Posted by Binlahab, Fri Mar-06-15 05:41 PM
ie here let me tell you EVERYTHING bad about me, get hella defenisve when you question it or have any issues w/ it & cling desperately when you wanna leave

notice how many mes & i's are in there?

you can imagine what an awesome person i am to be in a relationship w/


does it really matter?

wonder what bin's doing?
http://i.imgur.com/phECCMp.jpg
12744360, I stop talking to people over small stuff
Posted by SimplyHannah, Fri Mar-06-15 05:49 PM
As soon as it's not going my way in the slightest or he says something I don't like, im out of there.

I also make rash decisions. If we get in an argument and he dosent fix it, best believe Im calling up one of the red shirts or going to the club that night. It sucks because I wouldn't want someone to do me like that.
12744461, dis just sound like some young shit not a vice lol
Posted by _explain555, Fri Mar-06-15 11:15 PM
>As soon as it's not going my way in the slightest or he says
>something I don't like, im out of there.
>
>I also make rash decisions. If we get in an argument and he
>dosent fix it, best believe Im calling up one of the red
>shirts or going to the club that night. It sucks because I
>wouldn't want someone to do me like that.