And I can't quite fully claim this status as I am very lucky to have a wonderful person who picks up my slack when required and its a Lotta slack but still

This shit is so so sooo damn hard.

Like I wanna go running out the house, stripping my clothes off, screaming down the street, go live on a beach, smoke weed and write the Great Black novel but

I can't. I'd be literally dooming my children to a life in the system

(I'm serious ive thought abt this like if I just didn't show up to scoop em one day after school how long would it take for the state to come get em?)

& IMO there are few moral absolutes but deadbeat parents are easily in the top 5. Maybe top 3.

So I carry on. And I'm doing a pretty damn good job but man...sometimes I wanna be like yeah dog I CAN meet y'all for that happy hour on Wednesday! Why the fuck not? Make some top ramen kids! Burn the house down! Fuck it!

But I dont...and instead make a post on the internet with waaaay too much personal info in it instead. #therapy

On another note. Still haven't done my taxes. I *think* between my mortgage, child care, biz expenses etc I should get something back but you never know at this stage

Ive made a hard deadline to sit down next Saturday and do em no matter what. Watch the power go out or some shit.

that the 9 to 5ers with kids etc is whats hard

crime etc is like taking the easy way out

props to my parents who never strayed etc

>And I can't quite fully claim this status as I am very lucky
>to have a wonderful person who picks up my slack when required
>and its a Lotta slack but still
>
>This shit is so so sooo damn hard.
>
>Like I wanna go running out the house, stripping my clothes
>off, screaming down the street, go live on a beach, smoke weed
>and write the Great Black novel but
>
>I can't. I'd be literally dooming my children to a life in the
>system
>
>(I'm serious ive thought abt this like if I just didn't show
>up to scoop em one day after school how long would it take for
>the state to come get em?)
>
>& IMO there are few moral absolutes but deadbeat parents are
>easily in the top 5. Maybe top 3.
>
>So I carry on. And I'm doing a pretty damn good job but
>man...sometimes I wanna be like yeah dog I CAN meet y'all for
>that happy hour on Wednesday! Why the fuck not? Make some top
>ramen kids! Burn the house down! Fuck it!
>
>But I dont...and instead make a post on the internet with
>waaaay too much personal info in it instead. #therapy
>
>On another note. Still haven't done my taxes. I *think*
>between my mortgage, child care, biz expenses etc I should get
>something back but you never know at this stage
>
>Ive made a hard deadline to sit down next Saturday and do em
>no matter what. Watch the power go out or some shit.
>
>

>>>>>.sometimes I wanna be like yeah dog I CAN meet y'all for that happy hour on Wednesday! Why the fuck not?


The funny thing about that is that even when you get a childless moment you don't act on it (well atleast I didn't last week when my son was gone). I had all these places in my mind to go, all these things to do but then I was like this $25 to go here, this 20 to go there might be needed next week when Greasy Jr comes back home. $25 doesn't sound like a lot until you break it down in relation to what it could be used for--- field trips, snack foods, gas money, school uniform pants replacement.

So in my 8 day child free week, the only thing I did was buy a Richard Pryor biography and $11 worth of dollar roll sushi. In the whole 8 days that my son was gone, I spent $53 total. I think that averages to $7 a day give or take.

so yeah...I FEEL you.

him once he gets to be a teen and really has an appetite.

my daughter is 10 and eats more than me. my son is 5 and I've noticed big uptick in his food consumption.

I happy the wife starting working cuz cot damn! only down side to her working is that she's working 10 hours days, but at least its down to 5 days rather than 6.

i'm hopping we at least cultivate this taste and habit of eating only fresh and cooked foods and not prepackaged snacks and stuff. The few times we've fallen back on that stuff out of convenience our grocery bill really climbed high....that kinda snapped us out of it.

It's a double edged sword though...because while she likes fruit....she likes what i'd consider to be "Fancy" fruits..... blue and blackberries, strawberries, kiwi, etc.... she's kinda "meh" on apples and bananas.....

I'm hopping daycare doesn't start exposing her to a bunch of that stuff though....

pocket killers.

We don't even eat out much..it's funny when we do because my son has gotten to the point where he thinks the salad/hot/pizza bar at Whole Foods is "eating out".

to his beloved Red Lobster and the sh*t ended up being damn near $40.

I was like damn we shoulda went to Red Lobster.


Here I was trying to be cheap.


that by the lb. food tray sh*t will add up quick fast and in a hurry.

smh wholefoods
is the worst sometimes

their hot food is so damn good though :(

>>>>>>.sometimes I wanna be like yeah dog I CAN meet y'all for
>that happy hour on Wednesday! Why the fuck not?

Coworker invited me to happy hour last week. I asked her how come she didn't tell me days in advance so I could get things worked out. They are all childless tho, so...

Like I want to freely give someone $40 just so i can go out and spend $20.


Ain't no fun in that.

maaan....there was soo much i wanted to do this past weekend...then i started breaking down dem finanaces.... ended up finding a $15 bottle of stolis vanilla a bag of chron....and caught up on the DVR..i figured since the cable bill was paid i might as well use that shit up...lol...i did however cook some outstanding meals... but FUCK!!....my daughter is 14 and be in my pocket for lil shit al the time...

and trust there are days when the 3 I have make me want to do the same...
I hope I get extra heaven credits for the 5 yrs I did it...

im OK...could be better...could be worse

but thus far ive managed to keep the lights on, roof over head & food around here (knock on wood)

so overall i'd give me a C+.

lil above average but not by much


does it really matter?

wonder what bin's doing?
http://i.imgur.com/phECCMp.jpg

but I bet when them kids get old enough they will look back and be like damn he was doing A LOT and I appreciate it now.

my wallet

my heart

and my juicebox

are all super relieved

back to boring, frugal nights at home!!


"i wanna hug all u idiotic bastards & then set you all on fire" -Bin

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Every year I'm paying GRANDS to the IRS and it's ticking me off. Hopefully this year I get something back because I gave grands to charity.

Period. Unavoidable. I'll be on the news.

Good luck, sir

in taxes has literally led to me OWING taxes every year for the past 5 years at least.....

-Real Estate
-Contributing more to my TSP
-Having a child (THIS on is the biggest offender BY FAR. ALL that BS about a child being a tax writeoff or whatever is complete and utter bullshit)....

It's been looking like I won't get any kind of break till my daughter starts college in 4 years. But then hell, I got a whole new set of financial responsibilities lol. Can't catch a break.

is it just the parent they live with who claims them?

if that generates a big refund do y'all split it if you support them almost equally outside of where the kids actually reside (and i'm sure they are at the other former spouse's spot a significant amount of time as well)?

i've always wondered how y'all deal with this around tax time.

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parent.

i guess i'm talking about parents who are on good enough terms that they essentially split everything including how much time the kid(s) spend at each residence.

now, maybe that's too rare to even be worth considering. lol.

I made sure we was on that every other year program