I've been wanting to post this for a while but it's Okp. But shit literally got real the other night. Lol

For the life of me I don't understand why no matter what terms we end on, none of my exes will just STAY gone! This goes back to exes in high school! I always get hit up by an ex. Most are married now too which is disturbing!

I get random calls or texts and last week I got an out the blue dick pic via Facebook! Now dick pic aside I guess I'm forever the chick that got away but that feels like shit because they're off married and I'm still single. They're probably not happy but still. Sada is single.

Is this common? Well ladies is this common? That your exes never move on? Or do I attract crazies?

Fellas how many attempts do you give it with an ex? How long do you wait before you try to get back? Do you have an ex that you always "check in" with no matter how long it's been?

My infamous ex from 4yrs ago, some of you should remember, "Mr. My Life Is In Danger", he REFUSES to leave me the hell alone!! He cheated on me, lied about his life being in danger, then made it seem like I tracked him down to the woman he cheated on me with to begin with, she has since died back in Sept, he's gotten married but STILL calls me! I block him and he gets a new number! He's even gone to my MOTHER'S job and tried talking to her numerous of times!?

Well the other night, I spoke with him for two minutes urging him to move on with his life and 10mins later I get a message from his wife demanding the truth! Huh? THIS is starting to get old...

Really old, and I wish he was the only one! But I have another ex from h.s that is now bi-polar and once said he heard voices but not anymore that some how every year or so tracks me down to profess his undying love?!?

Other married exes who Facebook me or find me on Instagram that just want to "make sure I'm good" and tell me how great of a woman I am. Negros please.

Coincidentally she cheated on me and ended up pursuing a relationship with the person she cheated on me with, ultimately, resulting in heart break.

She came back with her tail between her legs and went on about how foolish she was, etc. but it was already too late.

Sooner or later people will realize they made a mistake and let something amazing go, and naturally, they want to recover it. Add the fact that you are attractive and it probably burns them up even more, knowing that they had all that, and now they have nothing. So they continue to press, hoping to recover something that once was.

The best thing for you to do is ignore them. Don't even open their messages as they will see you saw it, and continue to harass you out of sheer thirst or hope.

Doesn't stop him, I only started responding because 1. He did something recently I thought was foul and 2. My mama told me she didn't want him to come to her job anymore after finding he had got married. They were really cool before.

for real...
you need to just cut out all the social media for like a good year or two...
get a facebook alias if you must....but you gotta go incognegro x 10....


in my salad days...there was this one ex that I used to U-Turn on for like a good 10 years.....

in retrospect....the pattern wasn't love for her...or anything that cushy and romantic....it was simply that she was a good and easy lay and she made me feel important. she gave me attention.. Carnal and simple as that.... she was a good person, good peeps...but she was easy. and that made it easy for me to be #thatguy that you're referring to....

I'd venture that all men have a woman like that too....
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I don't even live in the same state! Most I haven't seen since breaking up! The one who sent the dick pic? Lol He misses the sex I know but he's in his own lane.


Last year I got off social media. For a totally different reason though. But I have blocked most and some of simply creative! I promise!! I really hate the idea that I need to stop having fun online to not be contacted by people that I no longer have dealings with. Some exes aren't annoying and those I don't mind. The occasional trip down memory lane and the now enlightening insight on my personality. Those aren't the ones I'm referring to but they are apart of the bigger picture of my dating pasts always lurking.

This came up a few times in a few relationships. I tell dudes upfront now and I'm honest so it hasn't been an issue lately.

the ex I mentioned above....
i'd fallen ALLLLLL the way outta touch....i'm talking a good few years.....but for whatever reason....the lower head took over and was resourceful as shit at tracking her down for one last romp.....

Real talk...to this very day I don't have a Facebook account off the strength of some ex's that I know would be much too accessible to me and that i'd be much to accessible to....


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lay in general for any and everybody.....at least not that I was aware of.....
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on topic obviously i AM the crazy ex who wont go away


does it really matter?

wonder what bin's doing?
http://i.imgur.com/phECCMp.jpg

And the one that is crazy? I'm not going to lie, when his mama told me about him being diagnosed bi-polar, I wasn't shocked nor surprised. But I was a baby when I dated him.

conversation.

this is literally the only thing i could think of tbh

those are probably the only women i've ever even been tempted to contact again after being in a relationship

that's it

love is great but once it's run it's course...and i'm booed up...the only possible thing on my mind is that trick ol girl used to do with this and that

that's it

We talk here and there, but she's moved to a new city and I'm not completely sure what she's up to. I fucked the relationship up, but I think I miss her friendship more than anything.

tried to see what was good after the fact
with the exception of my 7th grade girlfriend lol

never nothing cra....well once...but normally nothing ever crazy...just girlie emotions

Why do you think they come back?

ironically they usually end it

as far as why they come back....
well

in my experience women tend to be a bit impulsive
and I'm 'inconsistent' ...a very bad trait to have

so when you have impulsive person A dealin with inconsistent person B

person A blows it up .... then person A may realize, although he had his shit with him, dude was very good to me and a overall cool person

after all the emotional bs, it usually leads to being cordial...to then being cool/friends/acquaintances

Hey boo!!

Do you sometimes get that you lead chicks on? Or nah?

https://2sidessamecoin.files.wordpress.com/2013/12/africa-child-waving.jpg


Unfortunately I have been 'accused' of leading on
or that I won't 'give in'




I don't though...they just don't read the fine print lol

I don't get all in their personals but we are still friends.

You're not just popping up out the blue on the chick you dated for a few months or few years.

that is a violation

Block them on social media and block them on your phone.

All my friends joke about me blocking people I have so many people on block! There's too much social media! I have had to save numbers just to block them on Wutzap! (Sp) and Ovoo! Lol

I don't want to delete my social media because it's fun! I video chat my mom on Ovoo and my pops on Skype. Trust I stay blocking people but people get new numbers and change FB and instagrams like draws!

>I don't want to delete my social media because it's fun! I
>video chat my mom on Ovoo and my pops on Skype. Trust I stay
>blocking people but people get new numbers and change FB and
>instagrams like draws!

The new numbers and social media accounts is very true. Sorry ma'am. You must have that Erykah Badu effect on men. You look them in the eyes more than 5 seconds and you own them for life.

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Others are normal in my opinion. I dont want to play them off as crazy because they're not and that doesn't help me. Some do miss the sex, some I've never had sex with to be honest. Some mention the sex and some never do.

It's just fucking weird! And after talking down my exe's wife the other night? I'm really a bit frustrated. Like something has got to give.

but real talk, ain't no way I'm talking down an SO of a person I ain't messing with.

I wouldn't even entertain that mess.

...but 'You're the one who got away,' is game.

I didn't start being shit till about 5yrs ago. At the end of my relationship with my infamous ex. I grew a lot that year and haven't been the same since. Any man I've delt with since then? Okay, I could get it. I have been focused on being a good woman. Wifey material.

For the ones prior to? Maybe they saw a glimpse of a good woman, or good pussy but they didn't get the best of me. And some as I've stated never got any sex from me. Same results tho.

I'm just more so frustrated by maybe 3 or 4 of my exes. The rest I'm not "bothered" by.

Umm in my defense I am counting h.s because I still have h.s exes who still contact me. And I'm counting a few men I've dated, we weren't in "official" relationships but they still contact me. To say exes just sums it up for me so I don't have to give detail on everybody!

In hopes he'd leave me alone thinking I've moved on and started a family! Nope... He messages me from iMessage. You can't block on iMessage. I'd have to get a new Apple ID. He has a new fiancé. He messaged me last week to get an update to see if I found out the sex of the baby....

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If I delete her now because all her pictures of her and her husband declaring how in love they are, does that signal I care?

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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"One of the most important things in life is what Judge Learned Hand described as 'that ever-gnawing inner doubt as to whether you're r

I refuse to tolerate shit I don't want to see on MY facebook. Maybe you care and maybe the pics just annoy you? She should be too happy to notice anyway...

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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"One of the most important things in life is what Judge Learned Hand described as 'that ever-gnawing inner doubt as to whether you're r

push the button and move on with your life...


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I'm tryna be better off, not better than...

Can't you just change your settings so her life stays off your timeline?
Or are you saying that you impulsively keep creeping her page despite doing all that?

>Can't you just change your settings so her life stays off
>your timeline?

That's an option I didn't think of. Though I will know that I did it.

>Or are you saying that you impulsively keep creeping her page
>despite doing all that?

I don't creep to her page. She just posts alot.

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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"One of the most important things in life is what Judge Learned Hand described as 'that ever-gnawing inner doubt as to whether you're r

is going to think that then it won't matter when you delete her...she's going to think it anyway.

it would be deleted already if he didn't.

I blocked him

only reason I was communicating with him over the last year was because he was paying off a bill of mine, but he stopped paying it so BLOCKED