Some of the WORST "first dates" or whatever I've hd were with women that either approached me first, or had someone hook me up with them. It got to the point where I realized that if I wasn't the initiator, things would always go left. I've had women holler at me, give me their number then refuse to answer or return my FIRST phone call (this was pre-texting). Or they would just not talk. At all. One word answers, poor eye contact, etc.

I think it's because when I holler, they get to see exactly who I am without having time to build up some fairy tale in their heads about how I *might* be. I'm a little eccentric, so it matters.