i like doing traditional feminine tasks. and its not that i'm dainty and helpless, but i like being taken care of, and i like to take care of a man in the traditional feminine way of doing so.

i dont think its a matter of picking and choosing which "rules" to ignore...its moreso about creating a system that is BASED on those roles but is flexible according to my and my potential partner's natural strengths and weaknesses.

its also about balance and reciprocity. which is why i like men that are as masculine as i am feminine. if i spend two or three times the hours/money to prepare for a date as my man, and we go dutch or i pay, how is that balanced? if i spend the same amount of time/money as him, then it makes more sense. of course there are plenty of men who don't mind if a woman isnt dolled up for a date, but i generally dont date those type of men.