and if it is i find it sad.

b/c it means you agree to dates w/guys you don't like. or guys where there's no interest. and that's an incredibly cynical approach to dating. and it confuses me.

so i don't think that's what you do.

i've been on dates where i wasn't sure how much i like the guy. and who paid wasn't a big deal. we split or one of us paid. it was done.

i've paid for dates w/guys that went no where. oh well. i lost nothing i couldn't afford.

i have no problem paying for dates.

hopefully you get to that point. or you don't. i dunno.