that's why teaching men not to rape and getting rid of the idea that we just have to accept that some (too many) men are rapey and that's that is important, IMO.

dealing w/an unreported rape as a survivor is TOUGH. b/c it's like...that motherfucker (or those) is still out there. and he knows what he did and he got away w/it. and he may have hurt someone else. but just having to see him or just knowing he's out there breathing and unchallenged on this is maddening.