FWIW, I completely agree with John Forte... the obligation and expectation to love people you don't choose -- no matter how fucked up they might be -- has never made sense to me.

You might get a bit of a longer leash because we're related but in no way does that mean you're absolved of accountability nor are you above being cut the fuck off.

Mine is not the popular POV in my circle/family, but I'm totally OK with that. I just really have limited capacity for shitty, fucked up behavior with no accountability. No matter the source.

So yeah... distance.