For those of you married or have a man: were you sexually attracted to your man from jump? Or did it take some "convincing"? like, Was sexual attraction something that happened along the way?

Are any of you sexually attracted to men with money? As is, looks don't matter as long as he's rich you DTF? Is it really that common you think? This ongoing stereotype that women are more sexually attracted to men with money baffles me because I can't relate to it. I recognize that a man with money is desirable for a long term relationship and for security reasons, but not in sexual way or in a "I want to jump your bones and have this one night stand" way. So many men seem to think the later though. I tend to believe what men say on this as they have more experience with women, so I'm probably the weird one.

Also,

How important is sexual attraction in choosing a long term mate? Do you feel like it's secondary or its a must to move forward?

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It doesn't take convincing, but the better I know the person the more sexually attracted I am. The more I find out about him, his personality, his likes and dislikes...the more attracted I become. To me, sexual attraction is more than physical. It's the whole package.

I've only been instantly sexually attracted to one person before. It didn't work out but the attraction is still there.

Sexual attraction is important if you are talking long term. It's definitely needed to move forward.




>For those of you married or have a man: were you sexually
>attracted to your man from jump? Or did it take some
>"convincing"? like, Was sexual attraction something that
>happened along the way?
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>Are any of you sexually attracted to men with money? As is,
>looks don't matter as long as he's rich you DTF? Is it really
>that common you think? This ongoing stereotype that women are
>more sexually attracted to men with money baffles me because I
>can't relate to it. I recognize that a man with money is
>desirable for a long term relationship and for security
>reasons, but not in sexual way or in a "I want to jump your
>bones and have this one night stand" way. So many men seem to
>think the later though. I tend to believe what men say on this
>as they have more experience with women, so I'm probably the
>weird one.
>
>Also,
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>How important is sexual attraction in choosing a long term
>mate? Do you feel like it's secondary or its a must to move
>forward?
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>

It takes me a while to get into a dude which makes it hard for me when ppl ask me after one date how I feel about a dude and makes all my first kisses inevitably "meh" (if they happen on a first date)

I was attracted to him from age 9. But, it didn't get sexual in nature until we started spending more time together as friends when we went off to college. So, I guess you can say the attraction was always there. And we were both broke college students so there was no "money".

There were a lot of guys with money in college, but they weren't attractive to me. I don't know how you can make yourself attracted to someone just because of what's in their wallet.

Like Money is just one aspect of someone generally about their business and have their ish together so much so that people are attracted to them.

When you say attracted to money that sounds so gold diggerish. However saying attracted to a successful bout it person sounds more reasonable and understandable.

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I once had a conversation about a similar topic and the woman with whom I was talking said it wasn't about the money per se, for her it was about POWER

she was attracted to (in her words)"the magnetism that comes from a guy who is running the room. Oftentimes," she said, "from her experience the guy who is controlling the environment, in regards to people's responses to him, is often the one with the most fattest pockets." As such, she developed a proclivity for guys with money

so, perhaps the attraction guys "believe in" isn't from the money but what it brings

would you say it works like that for men and the alpha female?

guys have a tendency to either

like what looks most attainable on their "i can get her" scale

or

they just throw bait and see who bites

does it really matter


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im sexually attracted to men with extraordinary minds no matter how rich or broke they are.

however i'm more inclined to take more seriously a smart, rich dude over a smart, broke dude for obvious reasons.

as far as my current, i wasnt AS physically attracted to him when we first met as i am now. that's mainly due to the guy before him being tall and muscular and my current being thinner and shorter. but that wore off as time passed.

At least that's what I've noticed, unless the man with money is also attractive.

Not enough women hit this thread so I'm chiming in.

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does this do anything for u?

ATM life means all $20s or lower, lol.

i can't imagine what you would have done if it were $100, lol

>For those of you married or have a man: were you sexually
>attracted to your man from jump?

from the moment i laid eyes on my husband as i got out of the car for our first date, i was like WHAT THE FUCK? ...could not believe my eyes that he was THAT got damn fine...and had this silky deep voice and a commanding stance. sexual attraction was off the meter that night and we ended up in bed ALL NIGHT after our first date lol


>Are any of you sexually attracted to men with money?

like someone else said, it's more about the power that that money brings. but could i date an ugly dude with money? i have and it took a while to be really sexually excited about him but it eventually happened...mainly because i got to know him and became attracted to his personality etc...if i had to choose between two fine ones and one had money and 1 didn't, i always chose the one with money lol

>How important is sexual attraction in choosing a long term
>mate? Do you feel like it's secondary or its a must to move
>forward?

i've always felt like it had to be a must. i always wanted end up with the guy who was the best in bed so that i'd never have to be with my husband and fantasizing about someone else...

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i tried to date a nice guy who treated me well, but i just wasn't attracted to him physically. and i really tried to give it a go but i was just not feeling him like that.

with my husband, i was instantly attracted, like i couldn't keep my hands off him. i feel like he is the most attractive person i've ever dated.

i can't date or kiss ugly for the rest of my life. i just can't. maybe i'm shallow but if i'm not physically attracted to you when we first meet, i feel like it's all down hill from there. it's not like you are going to get any cuter.

I think it should start mattering more to me now, actually. But it still wouldn't be a driving force.


>How important is sexual attraction in choosing a long term
>mate?
>Do you feel like it's secondary or its a must to move
>forward?

It's very important, but sexual attraction grows for me as I get to know him better.
So if the guy's decent looking, he can become really sexy as I get to know who he is.

Classic case was this frequent customer when I worked as a barista. He was basically the
physical opposite of what I like, but he was really smart and had the perfect sense of humor.
I got butterflies every time he came in, lol.

There are so many unattractive men with money. I meet them all the time. I have tried to find attraction. Some were nice, interested in long term exclusive relationships.

But for the most part they were either short, overweight, awkward, small penis or some other oddity that would not get the juices flowing.

My longest relationship (8 years) had that basic "Everytime I see him I think he is beautiful" element. He felt the same. The attraction never really waned.