so yeah...i don't understand. LOL


i take it back - i DO understand. i understand that fathers who claim this way is best are typically men who are not comfortable expressing their emotions - probably b/c they were raised by emotionally distant/unavailable parent(s). and so telling their boys they love them is difficult b/c they have no context or example to follow. and doing so makes them feel icky b/c they're unsure of themselves and can't deal w/the vulnerability inherent in telling someone (even their own child) 'i love you'. and rather than dealing w/that they hide behind this notion that boys are better off if their fathers withhold affection.

i do understand after all.