Edit: And I feel you, generally speaking, Bin.

But the reality is, men are typically taught to suppress emotion, which makes us dysfunctional in relationships (and everyday life to a certain extent).

So the whole HARD HARD HARD, TOUGH TOUGH TOUGH thing doesn't really fly with me when it comes to raising my son.

I'm about balance.

So yeah, I punch him in the chest, toss him around and tell him to tough certain things out. But I also hug him, tell him I love him, and make it okay for him to express his feelings as long as he's being reasonable.