That is, if you're serious. If that's the case, you're being 'logical' to the point of being ignorant if not downright callous.

My friend knew from the day her daughter was born that she wouldn’t have more than a few years if she were lucky. She finally died after her fourth birthday. The doctors could do nothing for her and they sent her home to live out her final days. My friend knew her daughter was on her last few breaths.

Was she “brand new” to grieve? In your example of burying parents, would her daughter be brand new were the roles reversed? Say, mom has an accident and has only a few years to live?

You’re either playing devil’s advocate here or you have a significant emotional disconnect with the grieving process if you think people are acting “brand new” when their parents die.

You care about someone, they die, that shit hurts whether you know it’s coming or not. The end.