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12713992, Money. In my pastoral counseling classes grief has never been described
Posted by Case_One, Fri Jan-30-15 11:50 AM
as an act of selfishness. Grief isn't about wanting to keep something for yourself or keeping it aways from someone else. Grief is a natural emotion that helps humans to express a sense of loss that cannot be at times articulated and formulated into words.

That's why they have Grief Counselors, Chaplains, Pastoral Care teams, etc.


>"Selfish" has a negative connotation, but it isn't always
>negative.
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>If you're overly stressed and take a day off where you turn
>off your phone and lay in bed all day, that's selfish. But
>it's okay if that's what you need to do. It isn't negative,
>it's necessary.
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>In this case, you grieve because you hurt. Because YOU miss
>the person. Because of the impact that is has on YOUR life.
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>But the fact that the person is no longer in pain (if that was
>the scenario), isn't a bad thing.
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>Therefore your grief is of selfish nature. But it's fine.
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>My grandmother passed away at 83 last year and I still cry
>some days. It's selfish but I miss her daily.


And taking time to heal is never an act of selfishness. That's like you breaking your leg and having to stay home form work and folks call you selfish.


The problem is that people fail to realize that the human mind and soul needs time to heal via grieving just like a broken leg. And ain't nothing selfish about that.

But we are going just agree to disagree. I'll stick with what I know to be true.


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