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12712192, How do you clear your mind & focus when something upsetting |
Posted by ndibs, Wed Jan-28-15 09:50 PM
Happens in the middle of the work day?
I had a bit of an upsetting conversation midday. It wasn't that upsetting but he didn't get back to me which was upsetting. I just realized he tried calling me but I was on a phone call and didn't even get a ring from his call. But I was so upset for a few hours, I couldn't get any work done. There's a 7 hour time difference so there was a small window to speak and it closed without the issue being resolved.
I could work but I realized I was fucking up and so called it quits, just did the minimum and called it a day. I didn't want to ship a package to Germany that should have gone to Indiana or do something similarly dumb. Sometimes I won't leave my house if I'm in a bad mood or preoccupied with something bc driving distracted scares the crap out of me.
Anyway, how do you clear your mind and focus when you're upset?
12712197, Go out with a friend or on a date.|
Posted by Teknontheou, Wed Jan-28-15 10:02 PM
Something that gets you talking about other stuff with another person.
I just went through a bout of that this weekend.
12712201, I mean when you're working and need to focus |
Posted by ndibs, Wed Jan-28-15 10:09 PM
Drugs, alcohol, socializing, etc are all obvious easy distractions to replace what's distracting you. I mean when you don't want to be distracted. When you want to be clear headed and productive.
12712534, i slow down|
Posted by lfresh, Thu Jan-29-15 10:30 AM
if it abslutely need to get done?
i slow down
check and recheck
create a list if i have to
become very exacting
i get a bit absorbed after that
When you are born, you cry, and the world rejoices. Live so that when you die, you rejoice, and the world cries.
You cannot hate people for their own good.
12712200, if @ work: I used to pretend my water bottle was a bottle of vodka...|
Posted by Coprolalia, Wed Jan-28-15 10:08 PM
and put some earphones in and listen to whatever music set me right.
Every sip was a shot. While it had me using the bathroom more often it at least relaxed me a little.
12712219, I wanted to drink, but I had to drive...|
Posted by ndibs, Wed Jan-28-15 10:36 PM
Some packages to the post office.
Pretend drinking is an interesting technique though...
12712202, take a walk|
Posted by GirlChild, Wed Jan-28-15 10:11 PM
let out a long good cry
and i treat myself to something
also, running helps for me, but that's not practical at work, so do the walking
i've been dealing with family shit since oct and it was so upsetting that it was really distracting me. i have just tried to throw myself into working, it's really the only thing that makes me forget that i'm upset.
12712203, Is this about a relationship or something at work?|
Posted by Meadow, Wed Jan-28-15 10:12 PM
Either way I focus on the fact that I am at work and can't be breaking down all willy nilly. Then I go outside and take a walk on a ten to fifteen minute break and focus on the scenery. By the time I come back I am ready to finish the work assigned. Never fails me.
12712206, The conversation we didn't finish wasn't work related...|
Posted by ndibs, Wed Jan-28-15 10:20 PM
It was personal. The time difference means personal conversations midday sometimes happen, though I prefer they didn't. But 4pm-6pm when I have the bulk of my work done is pretty darn late there - midnightish. So it happens.
>Either way I focus on the fact that I am at work and can't be
>breaking down all willy nilly. Then I go outside and take a
>walk on a ten to fifteen minute break and focus on the
>scenery. By the time I come back I am ready to finish the work
>assigned. Never fails me.
12712231, Meditation, via intentional breathing and/or mindful walk|
Posted by rawsouthpaw, Wed Jan-28-15 10:55 PM
I needed to do so myself recently but passed. This is a good reminder I need to find ways to incorporate sessions during the workday, like at lunch.
12712263, Any links or book suggestions for meditation? |
Posted by ndibs, Wed Jan-28-15 11:46 PM
>I needed to do so myself recently but passed. This is a good
>reminder I need to find ways to incorporate sessions during
>the workday, like at lunch.
12713233, One of Thich Nhat Hanh's recent books|
Posted by rawsouthpaw, Thu Jan-29-15 05:57 PM
that I picked up myself for when I was at my last workplace:
although there are many this is obviously most directly relevant. His story is amazing too as a peace activist that MLK nominated for the Nobel Peace Prize. You might look up his talks on youtube where he is also verbally teaching one on how to apply Zen mindfulness/meditation via sitting, walking, or other activities. I consider his approach critical to me not going apeshit haha
The most basic way to put the sitting version of Zen meditation is being in some type of comfortable position and breathing very long and slow for whatever amount of time like 15-30 minutes, focusing completely only on the sensation of the air entering and leaving your chest and nose/mouth no matter what randomness tries to inevitably clutter your mind causing the stress. Mastery of this practice means it can be done almost anywhere and can create that peace on a regular basis in this moment that we are always chasing at some other time/place/method.
12712237, I have several methods depending on the situation. |
Posted by PoppaGeorge, Wed Jan-28-15 11:00 PM
1. mild annoyance - I might shrug it off or turn on some downtempo shit in my headphones.
2. Pissed - I might meditate for a moment and chant.
3. I'm finna fuck you up - I'mma walk over to my liquor cabinet, pick something out, and have a shot or two.
working from home has that privilege.
forcing myself to actually respond to you is like bathing in ebola virus. - Binlahab
Like there is stupid, and then there is you, and then there is dead. - VAsBestBBW
R.I.P. Disco D
12712255, RE: How do you clear your mind & focus when something upsetting |
Posted by Tiggerific, Wed Jan-28-15 11:27 PM
Go to a kickboxing or boxing class and punch and kick the shit out of a 250 lb bag.
12712261, Lol. |
Posted by ndibs, Wed Jan-28-15 11:44 PM
>Go to a kickboxing or boxing class and punch and kick the
>shit out of a 250 lb bag.
12712262, If I'm at work I play this and breathe with it... |
Posted by Phenomenality, Wed Jan-28-15 11:45 PM
seriously tho.. 60 seconds of deep breathing makes a world of difference.
if I'm at home.. i roll up a mental vacation then clean the shit outta my house. like music blasting, hard and fast cleaning.
Vee is I and I am She
12712498, thanks. i just added that breathing video to my iphone|
Posted by ndibs, Thu Jan-29-15 10:08 AM
cleaning is an excellent suggestion. it forces you to shift the focus from inside your head to your physical environment AND physical body.
12712277, I'd call moms. |
Posted by Deadzombie, Thu Jan-29-15 12:29 AM
12712500, Go for a walk around the block.|
Posted by TheAlbionist, Thu Jan-29-15 10:11 AM
Most important thing is to shift your perspective... there are very few things that are worth putting yourself in a bad mood for. Occasionally you need to take a step back so you can see your own over-reaction for what it was.
>Happens in the middle of the work day?
>I had a bit of an upsetting conversation midday. It wasn't
>that upsetting but he didn't get back to me which was
>upsetting. I just realized he tried calling me but I was on a
>phone call and didn't even get a ring from his call. But I
>was so upset for a few hours, I couldn't get any work done.
>There's a 7 hour time difference so there was a small window
>to speak and it closed without the issue being resolved.
>I could work but I realized I was fucking up and so called it
>quits, just did the minimum and called it a day. I didn't
>want to ship a package to Germany that should have gone to
>Indiana or do something similarly dumb. Sometimes I won't
>leave my house if I'm in a bad mood or preoccupied with
>something bc driving distracted scares the crap out of me.
>Anyway, how do you clear your mind and focus when you're
12712503, i go for a walk|
Posted by teefiveten, Thu Jan-29-15 10:14 AM
especially if im at work i just leave my desk and go for a walk
otherwise i go for a walk or may go for a drink or watch a comedy on netflix
12712517, anytime my day is going shitty I pump up the volume on the radio|
Posted by legsdiamond, Thu Jan-29-15 10:19 AM
12712540, Take a walk-- chill somewhere for maybe 20 to 30 min|
Posted by Atillah Moor, Thu Jan-29-15 10:33 AM
then back to work. If someone calls me out on disappearing (someone higher up the chain) then I tell em the deal-- diplomatically of course.
12712555, if you don't indulge in mary juana...|
Posted by morpheme, Thu Jan-29-15 10:41 AM
acknowledge the *thing*
address that something's occurred
and declare that the thing in question will have a resolution, that its hold its as powerful as you allow.
it ain't gotta the thing you carry throughout the day.
tomorrow/hours from now it'll be a lesser thing.
music is a welcome distraction because it can take your mind elsewhere.
try ol school, you'll travel back to fonder times.
12712625, see, when I used to get high...|
Posted by Trinity444, Thu Jan-29-15 11:22 AM
I'd probably overthink it lol
12712964, girl how you been???|
Posted by morpheme, Thu Jan-29-15 02:49 PM
i only got noided off of edibles.
12712589, Take a good dump or nap. |
Posted by WarriorPoet415, Thu Jan-29-15 11:02 AM
"There's a fine line between persistence and foolishness..."
"To Each His Reach"
12712615, I repress that shit.......|
Posted by GHNO, Thu Jan-29-15 11:15 AM
it's Man-Law #74
Posted by legsdiamond, Thu Jan-29-15 11:42 AM
12712791, I do my best to charge it to the game cuz...|
Posted by Creole, Thu Jan-29-15 01:03 PM
nothing can stop the hustle.
I've worked too hard to be in the position I'm in now. So, in essence, it's a matter of putting myself first at the very instance. My lifestyle can't be paid for if I'm sweating shit that is not related to my grind.
"I've done did a lot of shit just to live this here lifestyle..."
12712810, sex. hoop. music. workouts.|
Posted by JohnnyKilroy, Thu Jan-29-15 01:13 PM
12712832, master your emotions or self-compassion meditation|
Posted by luminous, Thu Jan-29-15 01:19 PM
master your emotions:
12712836, go for a walk, which turns into retail therapy.|
Posted by earthseed, Thu Jan-29-15 01:20 PM
12712976, Stop trying to control things. Detach.|
Posted by initiationofplato, Thu Jan-29-15 03:01 PM
Stop having expectations. Focus only on the present moment. Everything else will lead to stress.
12713035, I watch Turquoise Jeep videos.|
Posted by ChiBrownSkinLady, Thu Jan-29-15 03:43 PM
Or look at pics of my friends' kids or videos of my baby bro.
Babies' innocence and general silliness help reset my spirit whenever I get too low.
12713256, Take deep breaths, get a snack |
Posted by MizClayton, Thu Jan-29-15 06:29 PM
Don't text anyone about it
think about work and only work. Throw away wandering thoughts
watch something on YouTube