>because it will involve me on some level (and already has),
>from her asking for contacts, to expertise from me as a
>professional marketer, to financial support when she's sunk
>her money into the products, meetings, and such.
>

That's potentially going to place a lot of stress on the relationship right from the outset if she can't carry this ambition on her own. Plus I imagine giving your contacts over might put you in a compromising position professionally.

> And from the business meeting/church service I went to
>yesterday, complete with altar call - they prey on those who
>are at their end or looking for a "financial blessing" in the
>wrong place. Starting a life with someone who doesn't have a
>discerning spirit or exercising critical thought when
>confronted with these kinds of things doesn't bode well for a
>permanent relationship, i.e. marriage IMO. At 34 and trying to
>get my own financial house in order, I can't afford that
>misstep and have to limit my exposure.

Definitely a concern. Mixing business with the spiritual has caused many a family issues. Churches tend to play up the successes and ignore the failures. We've seen plenty of clients fail and it can cause a lot of tension in the relationship. And if she wants your expertise as a professional, why can't she trust your professional judgement as to the financial worthiness of this venture? Good luck with both that and getting your financial health in order.