Or, just talk to me while I’m trying to keep my composure since I know I'm not quitting shit, at least not until this other thing pops off.

I requested a transfer at work based on a hardship. My wife got a promotion and changed offices. Now we’re in opposite directions with one car. Plus, she’s 6 months pregnant and those doctor’s appointments are going to increase in a month. She’s also finishing up her bachelor’s at night right now.

Anyhow, transfer denied. Long and short, the reasons given don’t align with what I know to be true from outside sources that are literally in position to know, and I happen to know for a fact that the three offices I requested need workers and have the space. I also know that transfers can be made based on hardships. The logistics of it all demand that either I drop off my wife before her office even opens or have her driving back and forth each way every single day, literally doubling our fuel expenses, and ensuring she’ll be missing most of at least one of her classes two days a week. Plus, you know, there’s a three year old who will wind up having 13.5 hour days will be a newborn in this mix here in three months.

I’ve been told that no, ‘the department’ is not accepting transfers based on a hardship and I’ll just have to wait and see if there’s a need when my number comes up (like 14-15 on each respective wait list). Personally, I think my director is holding a grudge because I pulled his card awhile back in a dispute with a supervisor, went over his head and put an awful lot of things on blast to his boss. This whole thing started as me being perceived as a disciplinary problem, but I produced several letters from coworkers that not only echoed my own protests, but went much further in showing how bad and how long this toxic environment was allowed to fester in some pretty damning ways.

Anyhow, as a result, work conditions in our office changed dramatically for several people. Some magically people got promotions within days where they were basically being bullied and put into pressure cooker situations as of the day I brought all this shit up. Others got the supervisor transfers they repeatedly requested but were previously rejected. Shit, even the supervisors changed their tune in a lot of ways. Pretty much everything that I called out and reported got changed in some way. I even made myself above reproach in the process. I stopped getting harassed by my supervisor all day for shit she could have just looked up, and wonder of wonders, I got more work done, more accurately. I also have a fantastic relationship with my current supervisor. If all the issues I “whined” about- in his words- led to changes that improved not just my situation, but that of other coworkers individually and collectively, that fucking SCREAMS that not only were my issues legit, but that *he* was fucking up prior to me getting aggy over it. It also further cements the fact that that those changes (for the better) would not have been made without my “whining”.

Since I’ve got information from other sources (I.E, supervisors and managers in all three offices I’ve requested transfer to) that clearly tell a different story and one manager who is pretty sure he’s lying and flat out saying no just to say no, I’m kind of pissed because there’s no good reason to deny the transfer.

I know. Perhaps my wife should have held off school this semester. My job didn’t decide to have a second child. Nobody forced her to take the promotion. We could just scrimp and save for another vehicle. To all of that, I say fuck that. I can live with being told no if there’s really just no way to accommodate it, if I haven’t personally witnessed convenient transfers (among other perks) and general flexibility given to people who kiss the right asses (ahem: his) enough. When there’s no real reason other than some guy flexing because he can though? That’s a touch pill to swallow. In years past I think I’d be packing up boxes and getting walked the fuck out right now after burning this bridge to the ground, but you can’t really do that shit with a wife and kids in the mix. Plus, you know, scorched earth policy hasn’t really worked out for me. Being pissed doesn't necessarily mean I'm right and being right won't validate anything short of submission.

I do have one friend who is a manager looking into it from another office, but she’s a step below this dude in rank. She’s well known and well liked but I doubt she has any actual power to pull any real strings.