elaborated on it.

I don't disagree with anything you say below, but I would describe anything you say below as being a parenting equal. Important, valued but not equal.

>>being a "equal" to parents.
>
>i explicitly said the nanny will never be the parent.
>
>>Whether they spend more time with your kids or your children
>>have a special relationship with a nanny and choose to
>confide
>>in the nanny, none of that means or even suggests that that
>>makes them a parenting equal.
>
>but it does suggest they have a very deep relationship with
>the children which is bonding and as the parent you have to
>respect and trust in that. they play an important role in the
>raising of the child which offsets the parents relationship.
>as such they have to be regarded with some value.
>
>>You didn't answer the question about whether a nanny decides
>>to circumcise a child or what their religion will be because
>>the answer is obviously "no".
>
>The answer is no because those aren't the things you hire a
>nanny for.
>
>>Those are decisions for parents
>>only because whether you like it or not, the buck does stop
>>with the parents.
>
>*sigh*
>
>>If your kid grows up to be a creep you can't say "well, it's
>>my nanny's fault. she made some bad decisions on how to
>raise
>>them".
>
>But it can be your fault for not recognizing the role the
>nanny was playing in the child's life and having open and
>honest communications with them about the raising of the
>child, not just the do as I say type but a back and forth
>based on what is occuring in the child's life, something
>which the nanny may have more perspective on than the parent.
>
>>No. It's on you and all the important decision making that
>the
>>relates to your child can't be outsourced to a nanny.
>
>Raising a child isn't just about the 'important' decisions
>like will they be circumcised. It's the day to day shit which
>the nanny is experiencing first hand and you are not.
>
>>You can try to dismiss it as that just being my opinion but
>I
>>will ask the question again you didn't answer, does your
>wife
>>consider y'all nanny to be her parenting equal?
>
>No but my wife recognizes the nanny's expertise in child
>rearing, daily experiences with the child and as such has put
>the trust in the nanny to make decisions based on our values
>with an open line of communication so that we all can adjust
>for the betterment of the children. It's a two way street, not
>our way or the highway. That's why the choice of who that
>nanny is and building a bond with them is so important.
>
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>"I ain't no entertainer, and ain't trying to be one. I am 1
>thing, a musician." � Miles
>
>"When the music stops he falls back in the abyss."


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