around me. I think it will be present more times than not.

Even if there are ways to address I don't think that means that it isn't commonplace.

I also don't buy the notion that it boils down to what's effective. A mother and a nanny aren't equals and I don't think the best idea or most effective idea prevails.

For one, there usually isn't a best way to do things when it comes to raising kids. There are tons of ways to skin a cat and alot comes down to preferences.

If it comes down to preference then the parents way usually and should prevail.

Are you really having extended back and forth's with your nanny about the best way to raise your kids?

I don't think it's my way or the highway but again, parents and nannies aren't equals when it comes to child rearing practices.


>The way you presented it was like it's always going to be
>there and I say it doesn't have to be.
>
>>The nanny will do things that the mother will want to see
>>done differently.
>
>Without specifics there's a line here and it boils down to
>what's effective. Sometimes the parent will know, sometimes
>its the nanny. There has to be that acceptance. It can't be a
>my way or the highway on either part. That said there are many
>choices where the affects aren't apparent for a long time. the
>ones that the parent feels strongly about, they have the right
>to ensure the nanny can follow, but they should also be open
>to hearing the nanny say this isn't working out and not
>thinking it's just the nanny doing it wrong. If its a good
>nanny they probably have more experience than the parent in
>that regard and should be cherished for what they bring to the
>table.
>
>>If there are good lines of communications
>>then of course they can communicate the differences will out
>>turning into a big thing but the difference will create some
>>tension.
>
>Good lines of communication squash any tension pretty quick
>because it can be discussed and dealt with.
>
>>Tension isn't the worst thing in the world.
>
>Unresolved tension breeds contempt. Even more kids are far
>more aware of the tension between adults than the adults
>themselves.
>
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>thing, a musician." � Miles
>
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