>The wife will always have tension with the nanny no matter how
>great she is.

I think giving room for the parents and the nanny to connect is essential. They aren't just there for the kids. There will be criticisms form both sides, but having an open line of communication makes those constructive rather than things either party holds on to and grows to resent. I think this is really important because if you're going to go that route consistency is of extreme importance with the kids, and if divides start happening between parents and nanny it can have an extreme negative effect.

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