This past year kinda ran out on a sour note and the new year's stresses have had me trying to take stock of things I guess.

I've been poly (past)

I've been a cheater (deeper past)

Now I'm single unapologetically so

Maybe I wouldn't take issues with my exploits if I was a guy but I don't know. I don't feel sad or disgusted with myself. But I do wonder if my partners would feel a way about all of it.

I'm not looking for support or ire or condemnation or hand claps. Just looking around and trying to figure out if I need to put myself on the shelf.

I get that you've prolly done some way out crazy ass shit, but that's no reason to beat yourself up over it. I've done a lot of shit in my day and all I do is look back like "Damn... I really did that shit... Wow" and I keep moving forward.

Do I love sex? You bet. Do I think about it a lot? Hell fuck yeah. Is it getting in the way of anything in my life? Hell fuck nawl.

As long as it's not interfering with shit like your job and whatnot, I wouldn't consider you an addict. You're just a freak.

has it gotten in the way of work?

relationships?

have you not done things you would normally do during your day because you had to go sexy?

if not, you're not an addict. Just someone who enjoys fucking & knows what you want out of life.

when it starts pulling you away from living a "normal" life, then you should worry

But i tell all my patients who even think they might be a sex addict, that they should probably talk to a therapist first before they start self diagnosing or shaming/beating themselves up

I'm not letting anything major fall through the cracks but it's hard to realize I could be more productive than I already am.

I think I worry more about how others would feel if they knew the extent of my appetite

... and walk into an adult theater to take all cummers...

... and do it again...

... and miss work 'cause you went and stayed there during work hours...


... Yeah... you might wanna get some help.

Otherwise, even a voracious sexual appetite is nothing to really get worried about. I think women get a little more worried about having a helluva sexual appetite 'cause your "not supposed" to.



>I think I worry more about how others would feel if they knew
>the extent of my appetite


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Then I again took three of them and they all said ... so their validity is suspect.

In all seriousness I think you have to ask yourself if your sex life is chewing up your free time or your occupied time, and it's part of your being or consuming your being.

Like are your non-sexual relationships thriving? Friendships, family, etc?

Are you enjoying yourself or just going through the motions? Do you find yourself putting yourself at risk in any way? Are there other vices associated with your sex life, whether they be behavioral (manipulation, deceit) or chemical (drugs and shit)?

These are the key questions. If you just like fucking or thinking about fucking, that's normal. If you do it a lot, that should be normal (IMHO). But if it's an impediment to your health and well-being, that's another story

https://saa-recovery.org/

thanks for sharing...

it had me thinking I was a recovering sex addict...

Are you smashing dudes in parking lots who you met at Starbucks?

If not, you prolly aren't a sex addict... prolly just like attention.