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Topic subjectcoach me through my first time having a lover as a facebook friend
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12686093, coach me through my first time having a lover as a facebook friend
Posted by Iwasmadeto, Mon Dec-29-14 01:04 PM
this shit stressful.
12686094, what exactly is the issue?
Posted by SHAstayhighalways, Mon Dec-29-14 01:06 PM
12686099, many things
Posted by Iwasmadeto, Mon Dec-29-14 01:07 PM
who is that?

what do they mean?


top two annoyances.
but you do start to notice that your friends are crazy lol

i liked then unliked pictures twice. LOL

im on his page with a shifty eye. but wont say anything

about to delete our friendship lol
12686125, lol nosey friends sounds like the real issue!
Posted by SHAstayhighalways, Mon Dec-29-14 01:17 PM
i've never had anyone ask me who is so and so
mainly because a good bulk of the people i talk to regularly on fb
come from this crazy ass place
my real life friends & fam i can only imagine how they look at some of my posts
with the side eye but never say anything lol
12686128, no he asked who is that and what do they mean
Posted by Iwasmadeto, Mon Dec-29-14 01:20 PM
im like DUDE. lets not.

meanwhile if i was that sorta person there are a few old bags on his page with the sexual innuendos. GROSS
12686133, OMG lmao nooooooo! i see what you mean yea that's mad stressful
Posted by SHAstayhighalways, Mon Dec-29-14 01:22 PM
i thought your people were asking who is HE
he needs to ease back lol
just unfollow him so you don't see the hoes on his page
and i don't know have a talk with dude he needs to chill
12686140, hes not nasty with it. playful/in jest but very aware. ugh
Posted by Iwasmadeto, Mon Dec-29-14 01:25 PM
thing is, how do you un-friend someone like that without them being like HA! you are hiding something from me.

i need a happy hour
12686146, lol no you can still be his friend you just won't see his posts and such
Posted by SHAstayhighalways, Mon Dec-29-14 01:27 PM
if you 'unfollow' as opposed to 'unfriend'
get you a drink girl, mull it over lol

12686098, What's the problem?
Posted by luminous, Mon Dec-29-14 01:07 PM
don't know what your status should be?
12686111, dont follow him
Posted by labcoat, Mon Dec-29-14 01:12 PM
and dont have him on your timeline

basically you have to search him to see what
is going on
12686112, its a traaaaaaaaaap! © admiral ackbar...
Posted by CyrenYoung, Mon Dec-29-14 01:12 PM
..no good can come from this.


*skatin' the rings of saturn*


..and miles to go before i sleep...
12686114, yeah. i aint gots the time for this shit
Posted by Iwasmadeto, Mon Dec-29-14 01:13 PM
12686115, Stressful is a fucking understatement.
Posted by CaptNish, Mon Dec-29-14 01:13 PM
There is no coaching. Just shut that shit down. lol
12686120, walking on eggshells!
Posted by Iwasmadeto, Mon Dec-29-14 01:15 PM
12686510, I DJ, so I add random people all the time. Let one lady name come up
Posted by CaptNish, Mon Dec-29-14 04:48 PM
....and it's "I don't understand why you have to be friends with all these whores you meet in the bar." ANd I'm on some "YOU DIDN'T SAY SHIT ABOUT THE 12 DUDES I JUST BECAME FRIENDS WITH!" It's crazy. And exhausting. #thethingswedoforlove
12686118, i haven't ever.
Posted by SoWhat, Mon Dec-29-14 01:14 PM
my most recent guy - i have not ever looked him up on social media. to this day.
12686122, yeah the only other time i was in something like this was myspace
Posted by Iwasmadeto, Mon Dec-29-14 01:16 PM
and thinking back, i was the annoying one. "babe put a picture of us on your pageeeeeeee"
12686127, jump to every possible conclusion you can find
Posted by MrThomas43423, Mon Dec-29-14 01:19 PM
you see it....you jump. that's the only way its gonna work.
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it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.

not compassionate....only polite.

I am not like you at all and i cannot pretend.
12686131, lol yo i clicked through this girl's whole shit...like oh yeah?!?!?
Posted by Iwasmadeto, Mon Dec-29-14 01:21 PM
and thats sooo not me. this facebook is de devil!
12686137, none of my male friends in relationships are active on social media
Posted by southphillyman, Mon Dec-29-14 01:23 PM
none of them
plenty of chicks with men on there
but it seems like the safest route for a dude is to just leave it alone
12686147, or just not online friends with their mates
Posted by Iwasmadeto, Mon Dec-29-14 01:28 PM

12686159, ^^^^^^^^
Posted by mikediggz, Mon Dec-29-14 01:36 PM
12686273, ^^^^^^
Posted by napturalmystic, Mon Dec-29-14 02:33 PM
12686158, been doing it for years with no issues
Posted by MiracleRic, Mon Dec-29-14 01:34 PM
shit, i've got exes and old jumpoffs on there too who occasionally try and interact with me...

i run a tight and open ship when it comes to that...

to this day i haven't had a significant issue with any

i have a "if you jealous...keep it to yourself rule"

i don't mind the "who is that?" shit either...i have so many random people...after a few of those most people stop trying to be nosy

if i'm being secretive...it won't be on social media
12686173, lol @ i run a tight ship. i hear ya. i dont think there is a jealousy factor
Posted by Iwasmadeto, Mon Dec-29-14 01:43 PM
prob just a dont wanna be played one...


admittedly, my friends and i are so loose and slack with each other just for the laugh. if you are sitting outside the circle your eyebrow may raise.

ive just never really had to think about this stuff on fb/twitter/IG

12686312, FB primary purpose is to make people jealous and envious.
Posted by legsdiamond, Mon Dec-29-14 02:47 PM
I would fall back from that shit if you want a healthy relationship.
12686356, My possessive ex made me unfriend many of my male fb
Posted by Chat_bouts, Mon Dec-29-14 03:08 PM
friends and I base had to give him my password. He tried to rationalize it by giving me all of his passwords too. In hindsight, it made things worse because if the person is already jealous, it can cause them to obsessively and compulsively log onto your fb. But, for us normal folks, it kind of could put you at ease knowing that if the person was indeed cheating, then you could easily find out.

With that being said, there's no one way to handle this situation because everyone is different and how they react to your interactions with your friends will vary based on their trust and security level.
12686367, whoa.
Posted by Iwasmadeto, Mon Dec-29-14 03:16 PM
12686376, If you getting those "who is that" and "what does she/he mean"
Posted by Mr. ChicagoB-Boy, Mon Dec-29-14 03:22 PM
questions, dead that shit now. if they are going to follow every sentence and every comment on your page, you in trouble anyway.

best thing to do is either act like Facebook doesnt exist and never go on there or come correct tell them to find some chill or you blocking or unfriending they ass.

let it shine through!!!!!!
12686388, good advice. its playful but a bit annoying. just gonna be my usual
Posted by Iwasmadeto, Mon Dec-29-14 03:27 PM
non entertaining it self.
12686495, bad idea.
Posted by Deadzombie, Mon Dec-29-14 04:35 PM
it will fester and burst.
12686499, that's a negative, ghostrider.
Posted by illegal, Mon Dec-29-14 04:38 PM
12686507, I'm gonna flirt with you awful on FB now.
Posted by ShinobiShaw, Mon Dec-29-14 04:45 PM
12686511, lol. and you know my simple ass will bait.
Posted by Iwasmadeto, Mon Dec-29-14 04:50 PM