I've been thru it via trial and error and came by my knowledge the hard way because even if I had someone in my life as a young man who I respected and would listen to (which I didn't and woukdnt have listened to anyway) I firmly believe in experience being your teacher. Teachers can give you the knowledge of where to go to find what you need but ultimately, as with all things in life, that desire to get it has to come from and be fueled by something within.

Me trying to tell other grown ups how they fucking up when I'm not their daddy is a non starter for black folks, plz keep it 100 in the gatdamn post