what one is esp since this was her first one...i critique public health papers all the time for ppl and when i have a new student i tell them "this is what you'll be getting from me, if this is an issue, then maybe i'm not the best person."

different ppl respond to things differently and we can't have a one size fits all approach. she can be how she is, but when you know you're a hard critique, it's good to advise ppl esp if that person is a friend (or a wife of a friend)