We all know women are better at keeping secrets, fantasizing, and being tactful with their desires. And women care more about looking bad publicly.

but can a woman truly be faithful to one man.

In mind and body?

If you are a woman how do you deal with being bored, or needing something more than what he can give?


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to this and all your other introspective questions if you properly applied them to yourself.

No other person's answer is going to give you what you're looking for, especially with such a flawed question.

I'm not crying out for answers here.

Not for personal issues anyway.

My take is, do women cheat as much as men. Because it's kind of normal for men to cheat.

not my man, but men in general. Not saying my man wouldn't cheat, not saying I wouldn't either.

It's a fun low stress post, let's keep it that way.
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My dude specifically told me he didn't want an open relationship. I told him I didn't care either way. He specifically told me he didn't want that and why.

So the discussion is important I guess.
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Hopefully, yes.

I'm pretty ok myself. Mad about my work schedule.

anyways, glad I made u lol.
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I saw these bracelets that I liked a lot

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of course a woman can be faithful.

so can a man.

the question pertains to integrity only.

do you have integrity or don't you?


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so for you integrity might not be worth as much as it is to me..

if your perspective is that integrity is rare.. then that is precisely what you will experience in life.

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Well integrity means the world to me.

But that's me.

Integrity should be tested tho.
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I think a man is just more likely to say "that's my wife/gf and I gotta ride this out" when times get rough. You always hear about a woman stepping out when she's not feeling loved or whatever it's rarely just ineedsumdik.

It's peculiar because in the old days women putting up with their man's bullshit is what kept marriages together.

I don't know if that necessarily translates to being less faithful, but it's a unique type of unfaithfulness.

Especially if the man isn't the bread winner.

then communication and mutual respect become very important.

Some people feel justified in their opinions based on what they feel they put out.

so they think they have the right to step out because they put up with so much.


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every woman I've loved has cheated on me

not one woman is capable of being faithful

But usually only once in the relationship. Like in a 5 year relationship I cheated once right when we first had issues that were like make or break us. If I felt bad I worked thru it and didn't cheat again. The guilt kept me around I think.

but :/

I think everyone cheats at some point tho. Give it time and u will see.
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>I think everyone cheats at some point tho. Give it time and u
>will see.

>RE: absolutely not.
>every woman I've loved has cheated on me
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>not one woman is capable of being faithful

I've been manipulated, emotionally abused and some of them were downright crazy, but to my knowledge no one cheated on me in any of my 4 adult relationships

sorry if this was actually the case for you though

but i'll never be unfaithful with my affection

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Who breaking up over the man cheating and I got mad and made this post.

I decided to do a confessional for each post.

I do think women can be faithful just like I think some men can be. It makes me sick to see male infidelity understood more than female.

This was my nsfw bloo collar female spin post without the delete.


lol.


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to hear it from you...

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I know that there is one man who I could seriously and happily fuck for life! No need for no other dick. Unfortunately, he lacks in many other areas.

But I have yet to meet one man who can satisfy my emotional, spiritual, deep needs.

So if a man wants a woman to stay faithful in the bedroom, maker her cum alot and keep her loved up on other levels.

But emotionally, I just think most women have more areas of need than most men.

Thank you for your reply.
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i'm not on some "ALL WOMEN ARE CRAZY" shit but yes most have issues that prevent them from recognizing when everything is in its place and keep them anxious.

i've seen and experienced women in great situations--cared for emotionally, super attentive dude, drops dick properly and brings in the bread--and they still wander, get involved with other people, push the guy away or some combination of that shit.

there are a lot of women who just can't stand to be happy.

But I have to be the total package for him as well. So really it starts with the choices we make.

I can only do my part and set my example. If she can't get with that, oh well, try again with someone who can. Usually it works out for a short time, like between three and eighteen months. I'm like the microwave of boyfriends, heat it up fast, but it's kind of hard to sustain once you're not feeling it in return.

Especially if I recognize I've made an error somewhere.


But all I really need is a guy who appreciates me openly...so I can feel validated and wanted. I know I am a prize, but when I feel unappreciated instead of just leaving I become kinda evil. I'm too sensitive really. That is my gift and curse.

But in my current sitch I allowed myself to start a family with the guy. Something I thought I'd never do. I'm still battling with the best way to handle that decision. I never wanted to have a split family. I love the fact that my parents are still together. I want that for my children. But it has gotten to the point that I don't even look at him. Like he walks in the room and I don't even turn my head.

Faithfulness ain't got nothing to do with gender. It had everything to do with character and integrity.




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You can have a million options and not take one, or you can have one option and go off the deep end and break your foot trying to get to it
Some of us really need to understand that it's perfectly normal to properly evaluate yourself and what's important to you, without having to go through some sort of trauma first

You don't have to cheat. People cheat because they don't respect themselves or their partners.


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Not trying to champion cheating, just think you're being kinda heavy handed on the rhetoric fam.

If you want a different kind of pie, stop eating the one in your hand, put it down and go get another piece from somewhere else.

Cheating reveals a lot about ones character and integrity.

I bet you wouldn't date someone that tells you they have a habit of cheating. So, kill that lame mess.


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Plus over the years I've learned to trust our nature instead of our socially accepted playbook.

And for the record, I like to eat ice cream on top of my brownies. Same time.

>Plus over the years I've learned to trust our nature instead
>of our socially accepted playbook.
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>And for the record, I like to eat ice cream on top of my
>brownies. Same time.


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Jawns who wanna get chatty with a nigga like former co-workers, cashiers, a couple other jawns around the way who wanted the digits. Seems I got more attention the more involved I got with bae.. and I still choose her every time. Minimum drama, tons of attention. Affection & making a man feel as secure as he's ever been & etc etc etc.

Question isn't so much the options out there but did you even pick a great, good or even an okay'ish option to start with to make those options worth it or not. A rich CEO always have the option of ditching prestigious firm to mopping up at a fast food joint. Packers always have the option of ditching Aaron Rodgers right now & getting another QB that's out there like a (insert bum out of work QB here). One has the option of trading their Luxury sedan for a '94 Dodge Neon straight up. Point is do you have an Audi or Aaron Rodgers level dude or do you have someone who's comparable to a Dodge Neon or a fast food janitor?

just a reminder when we're throwing out words like character and integrity.

What, you thought I was going to change my stance? Think again. That fact is the Fact.


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either he has integrity or he doesn't...since that is what determines if people cheat or not

but integrity is no more static than good or bad...

are there really good or bad people? honest or dishonest people?

it's a scale...and since it's only a few unicorns that "lie" on the polar sides of that spectrum...

people with integrity find themselves indulging in behaviors that completely lack it

If I suspect it remotely, I am going to start to acquire side pieces. I stopped doing it when I met my wife for these two important reasons. I respected her and didn't want to lose her because I assessed IMHO that she was the best out there, or in some way a throwback to a long forgotten era of fineness and character. People don't want to hear it but if you have something really good, you won't take chances. Which of you would go in to a restaurant with 40 mil in a suitcase laying on the passenger seat and leave the door unlocked? Well I would if I was going there to collect 80 billion, but other than that, I am locking the doors all the time. Someone here missed the chance but I'll say it: and with God's help I have been faithful. MLK is a better man than me, supposedly, and look at the pain he caused his family. I never say never.

Come on, bruh. Coochie = ATM. Make that money buy selling the honey.

or to be judged as taking the easy way out.
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Yes. Of course. I said the words on my wedding day and I've been nothing but faithful mind, body and soul to my hubby. 10 years of marriage in July.

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but the flipside of the coin is, given that premise, is an unfaithful woman worth being committed to mind, body, and soul?

the same energy you give out is the same you deserve back.

If you half ass your way through a relationship, dont expect anymore back in return.

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How hard is it to be upfront about needing more intimacy, wanting to spice up sex, or not feeling the same level of attraction as before?

I don't have a problem with people wanting new things, I have a problem with people not being honest with someone who trusts them. There are lots of people who just want casual sex, so why fuck with someone who wants monogamy? If you can't be faithful then own up to it. Don't try to have your cake and eat it too. That's selfish.

First off someone upped this this post was made in september. Secondly I have told him all that. Nothing has changed.


I'm not going to cheat thom
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>First off someone upped this this post was made in september.
>Secondly I have told him all that. Nothing has changed.
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How did he respond to this honesty?