>b/c in the midwest & west there's a whole lot of christopher
>
>williams-esque lightness, that's not necessarily mixty in any
>
>direct sense.
>
>those ppl tend to date each other, and it doesn't seem all
>that
>strange.

yep and those are exactly the folks i was describing in my response. real old people too, in their 60s and 70s. i think generation matters, too, per my original comment in this thread.

>when i was in atlanta, it was nothing for the deep purplest
>black
>dude to be w/a lightskinned chick, and they were both looking
>for greatness in each other.
>
>in new york pretty much the same is true, except dark on dark
>isn't so weird, whereas light on light does make you double
>take.
>
>i can say that the vast majority of any 'real' hollers i get
>where
>ppl are actually putting in some kind of work, and not just
>out here for sport, seem to come from lightskinned dudes,
>esp. of the spanish variety.

yea in my mind i think that sort of "complementarity" is more "normal" for light-skinned folks. specifically among caribbean men, my understanding is that it's almost typical for a light-skinned dude to seek out dark-skinned women.

>but conversely, i've had darkskinned dudes approach me like
>'i bet you don't like darkskinned dudes, BUT---'
>
>just leading w/defeat. which is sad yet interesting.

i think they might have experienced dark-skinned women who compensate for their color complex by chasing light men, or who process it by being on that "being mary jane"-niece thing and wanting a light-skinned dude so they'll have lighter babies.