>Jaguar Wright aside, I am dealing with a love one who lost
>their spouse and when I talk to them they don't bring up the
>problems and issues they are facing but they are on social
>media pouring their heart out about how bad they feel. Is
>there a value in that or should I be telling them to get off
>social media and get into therapy?

There’s absolutely value in that. People tend to be empathetic in these situations, and chances are she’ll get a greater outpouring of that empathy, affection, etc on social media than they’ll get off it.

The value of that depends on the person, and it sounds like they see value in it

Plus, there’s the added bonus of being able to go back and read a comment, which they couldn’t do with a verbal discussion.

Telling them to get off it will probably put them on the defensive.

But gently, lovingly suggesting therapy is always a good way to go.

You can also extend your hand in support, letting them know your door, ears, shoulders are open to them should they need it.

But I wouldn’t say a word about the social media part.

Hope that’s food for thought.