or at least a different space in your current industry. I'd suggest finding another area of interest that will also allow you to get the money you need.

linkedin is good for connecting with folks from all types of work. I randomly make connections there. it was really helpful when looking to get information about other career types, jobs within industries, how to get in, what knowlege to gain, etc.

what makes it feel selfish? I don't see it as that all. we all have to grow in some capacity, especially after spending a lot of time doing the same type of work. you owe it to yourself and your fam to try finding other goals.