..this notion of needing closure and/or forgiving people who've wronged you is crazy to me. I've never understood it..

Is it unhealthy to be constantly wishing exes ill and praying on their downfall 24/7 years after?..i think so..

But it's perfectly healthy in my opinion to not forgive someone and not hold them in high regard and not wish them all the best. For me...I just cut them off totally...
Once i'm sleeping at night and functioning and growing...i cld care less about them, closure or forgiveness
I focus more on wtf I was thinking and what level of self worth I had at the time to have someone like that in my life..