In the beginning of the article she mentioned being taught not to say anything, "especially black women". Am I taking that comment too literal because when I apply it to my own life, I don't recall it that way...

by way of example, not sure exactly what age I was but I know it was very young. While taking a bath a friend of one of my uncle knocked on the door. I invited him in...he decline and I was like I can close the shower curtain. thinking nothing of it...

later that evening, my mother beat the crap out of me and explained how I was never to do that.