I read the book and it was very well written but I think its preaching to the choir. And its also hurtful that quantitative data gets the attention rather than peoples lived experiences. eg. talking about being brutalized by LEO is considered whining (you must have done something wrong) but the actual statistics get all the publicity.

What I would like for you to consider especially when talking about this issue with a member of the marginalized community is that THEY live the oppression everyday and yes they are aware that members of the privileged make be actively working to end the oppression. Those facts do not make it hurt any less and some folks are not in the business of giving out ally cookies.

Yes sometimes you (general you) have to be quiet and really listen instead of trying to refute or "teach" or prove to be the exception to the rule.
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